It’s a great feeling when you meet a special someone you want to marry. However, for the marriage to blossom and last a lifetime, you need to put in some effort and work on yourself. Hence, you need to master certain relationship skills that will help you have a happier, healthier, and more successful marriage.
Before someone gets a driver’s license, they take a driver’s ed course, practice with the help of an experienced driver, and closely study the rulebook. These are all valuable things to do because driving without the necessary skills would make someone a menace on the roads and a danger to themselves and others.
The same thought process applies to getting married as well. Before getting a marriage license, people must learn how to do the high-skills activity that a partnership requires.
Otherwise, couples are at risk for intense fighting and launching a marriage that’s at risk from the outset.
Couples who learn important marriage skills have the highest odds of enjoying a long-lasting and gratifying partnership. A marriage takes work and effort from both partners, but if you’re willing to learn a few crucial skills, then you’ll be triumphant in creating an enduring love.
And if you’re spending the time and energy needed to have a wedding, it makes sense to ensure that the marriage that follows will be a prosperous one.
Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.” – Tom Mullen
Here are a few pieces of marriage advice on the 4 main critical skill areas you need for a successful partnership.
4 Critical Skills For A Successful Marriage
Young children often get mad, cry, or even hit their siblings. Adults, on the other hand, mostly live their lives in a calm zone. The good news is that adults who get overly emotional, especially with anger, can learn how to overcome their anger tendencies.
If you find that you raise your voice and get mad more than once every several months (or get so mad that you say and do hurtful things), you’ve got some important learning to do.
Talking tactfully, especially when the issue is something that distresses you, and listening in a way that sustains cooperation, are essential to any marriage. Talking in a way that’s complaining, critical, or otherwise hurtful will get you in serious marriage trouble.
Dismissing what your partner says, negating what you hear with “but,” or ignoring, instead of digesting what you hear, are all sure to cause extreme marital woes.
3. Conflict resolution.
All couples have differences. Successful couples know how to start with a “his way” and a “her way” and end up with an “our way” that they both feel good about.
That’s true, whether the issue is a simple one, like what movie to see on Saturday night, or big issues like where to live, how to handle money, and how to keep your intimate life passionate.
“The success of marriage comes not in finding the right person, but in the ability of both partners to adjust to the real person they INEVITABLY realize they married.” – John Fischer
Every time you share a smile, laugh at your partner’s jokes, agree with a comment your partner said, express appreciation, thank your partner for something or express affection, you are offering “dollops” of positivity. The more dollops you give, the happier you both will be.
The moral of the story? Be prepared. Remember that a wedding is for one day. But a marriage, hopefully, is forever.
Written By Susan Heitler Originally Appeared On YourTango