This is where we fall in love, believing that we’ve found our soulmate and that nothing could ever go wrong. For a lot of people, this stage is where the decision to marry and the proposal takes place.
2. The Power Struggle Stage
For better or worse, the Romantic stage is not meant to last. After several months (up to two years), it is replaced with the next stage, the Power Struggle stage.
At this point, the chemicals wear off and we slowly (or suddenly) begin to see that our partners are not actually perfect.
We may begin a campaign to get them to change back to the way that they were when we were in the Romantic Stage. The only problem is that this is their true selves. We’ve just lost our chemically induced rose-colored glasses.
Research tells us that the average amount of time that a couple waits to seek counseling after they begin the Power Struggle stage is six years.
This means that they will experience a significant degree of discomfort and unhappiness while trying to negotiate the natural ups and downs of their relationship dynamic… usually without the right tools!
Research also shows that there is a window of opportunity during the year before the wedding and the six months or so after when couples can receive the optimum benefit from marriage preparation.
Later, under stress, negative habits and relationship patterns may become established and be much harder to resolve.
Related: The 5 Stages of A Relationship
3. The Mature Love Stage
If you can get premarital counseling, either before or during the Power Struggle stage of your relationship, you can avoid much pain and agony, as well as circumvent the formation of bad relationship habits.
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