10 Signs You’re Not As Happy In Your Relationship As You Pretend To Be

10 Signs You’re Not As Happy In Your Relationship As You Pretend To Be

We have so much going on in our lives these days, that we do not get time to sit down and introspect what really is the secret to happiness. How should we prioritize our time among demands of work, family and yeah social media feeds?

We can imbibe some wisdom from the research conducted by Harvard University to find out the secret of Happiness.

For over 75 years Harvard’s Grant and Glueck conducted a study to find out what really is the secret of success and happiness.

And the results are startling:

“The clearest message that we get from this 75-year study is this: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period. It’s not just the number of friends you have, and it’s not whether or not you’re in a committed relationship, it’s the quality of your close relationships that matters” — Robert Waldinger, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development

The secret to happiness comes down to quality of your close relationships.

It’s not about just being in a relationship but the quality of relationships –how much depth and authenticity exist in your relationships, how safe and secure do you feel with each other, the extent to which you can be yourself with your partner and be seen and loved for who you truly are. So, when the biggest predictor of happiness and fulfillment in life is basically quality relationships, does it make sense to stay stuck in unhappy relationships? Off course not.

So, here are ten signs that could mean that you’re not as happy in your relationship as you pretend to be and you have some reassessing work to do.

1) You find your partner increasingly annoying

No two people are totally compatible and that’s normal. Everyone has some quirks and antics that can turn people off. But if you find everything that they do annoying, then there is trouble. If you can’t stay with them for even ten minutes without rolling your eyes or screaming in frustration, and have more fights than normal conversations then that’s not a sign of a happy and healthy relationship.

You really need to take a long and hard look at your relationship ad reassess what you want to do with it.

2) There is no display of affection in your relationship

Everyone has different love languages and everyone displays affection in a different manner. For some it is verbal affirmation, for some it is physical touch, for some acts of service. No matter how busy someone is, they can always squeeze in one way or the other to display their affection for their loved one. It could be as little as a loving embrace or holding hands or pat on the back or a simple text but if there is no display of affection at all in your relationship, then it is a warning sign that your relationship isn’t as loving as you pretend it to be.

3) You don’t want to spend time with them

In the initial phases of a relationship, one wants to spend as much time with their love interest as possible. You can’t seem to get enough of each other. There is an initial rush and a sense of urgency and restlessness to know each other better and spend every moment with them. This rush slowly wears off as one gets more comfortable and steady in the relationship and both partners become contented with spending mutually satisfying time together. But if you have reached a stage where you totally avoid spending time with your partner and prefer family or friends or work or alone time over them always, it’s a sign that you might not be that happy with them.

4) When you think about future, they don’t cross your mind

Whenever you fantasize or make plans about your future, you do tend to think about your love interest.

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