5) Don’t be clingy or obnoxious
While keeping in touch and consistent communication is important, this does not mean that you pile on and send continuous texts to your partner and get impatient when they don’t reply to your texts immediately.
Don’t be clingy or obnoxious, it’s not sexy at all.
6) Work on self-discovery and personal development
Once we get into a relationship, we get totally consumed by it.
We make our partner the center of our universe. We stop making time for our friends, hobbies or passions.
Whether you are in a relationship or not, your first priority should be to invest in yourself.
You should be able to create a life on your own that supports you and nurtures you.
If you just rely on your partner to support you and make you happy all the time, you will just scare off your partner by your neediness.
7) Don’t stalk their social media profiles
I know it can be tempting to stalk your partner’s social media profile to get to know them better.
But it is far better to get to know each other organically over a course of time as compared to checking out their Facebook posts of last five years and killing all curiosity.
8) Hold the sex
This advice may look contrary to current trends in the millennial generation where relationships start with casual intimacy.
While there is nothing wrong with this approach per say, but it does have the potential to unnecessarily complicate things.
When we get intimate too soon, we let the chemicals in our bodies cloud our judgment and we tend to make choices based on chemical rushes instead of sound reasoning and logic.
9) Enjoy the process and don’t get hung up on the destination
While marriage and happily ever afters are still relevant concepts but do not treat every single date as your potential life partner.
Approach the dating process as an opportunity to get to know each better and let the relationship unfold organically.
When you approach the dating process with certain agendas in mind, you tend to become controlling and manipulative and it kills the spontaneity and charm of the relationship.
Be natural, fun and spontaneous and enjoy the process without getting too hung up on the destination.
What is meant to stay will stay, what is meant to go, will go.
10) Follow your own Internal Guidance System
Ultimately the most important ally in your life is your own internal guidance system.