To the Guy Who I Thought I Would Grow Old with

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A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…

Our hearts kept it simple.

I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once. I don’t really know when it exactly happened, but somewhere in between our intense eye contact and wiping my tears away as my walls came down that I spent years crafting, I crashed into you fully and never looked back.

My heart was unguarded, and I gave you all of me. We didn’t just hang out. We played. Our souls were alive – we were like two little kids again seeing the world for the first time – being with you multiplied all the good in life and changed me forever.

But our minds were another story.

We were complicated people, you and I. We weren’t simple. Our minds were analytical and imaginative and we thought about everything. A lot. We ended up making every situation in our life about 100x more difficult than it had to be.

We argued a lot. I fought with you at inopportune times, but my anger was fueled by my passion and emotions for you. I cared. I loved you. I loved all of you. I loved that I was the only one you showed certain parts of yourself to, you gave me all of you.

I wiped your tears as you spoke about your family, there’s nothing in this world I loved more than holding your hand and whispering words of reassurance in your ear, because I knew you weren’t broken, you were just bent. And I loved all your edges, all your roughness. Your imperfections were perfect to me.

I challenged you because I loved you.

I confronted you a lot. I’m not the type of girl who nods and laughs and is always comfortable, I wasn’t easy — as in, I didn’t just “go with the flow.” But that’s because I craved more from you – I had opinions and big dreams for the future, I wanted the best for you. I never put up with not getting everything I deserved.

I never let you get away with slacking on your talents or putting in effort towards our relationship because I knew what we had. And you were never left uninspired or unsatisfied.

You broke my heart.

Not too long into our magic, things started to turn. The fireworks combusted, leaving us burned and confused. We wanted it so badly that we thought there was a logical solution to working out our differences. But there wasn’t.

The truth is, you just weren’t ready. Your past, your demons, whatever the reason was, you started to push me away. You loved me in a way I have never been loved but you still weren’t ready. And that was the hardest thing to accept.

I knew I had to let go. Because you never ever have to convince or inspire someone to do the work to be ready.

There are many things I never thanked you for.

I thought I couldn’t live without you, but my heart is finally starting to beat again. You broke my heart open and new light got in, you made me so desperate and out of control that I had to transform my life, and I did.

I thought I would grow old with you, but sometimes, life has other plans. That doesn’t mean I ever stopped loving you. When someone touches your heart, they will infinitely be there.

I had so much anger and pain, it was gnawing away at me, slowly destroying me. But then I realized that our love wasn’t the kind that results in the fusing of two lives into one, it was the kind of love that gave me new life, that taught me much more than a happily ever after ever could. And I don’t regret a second of it.

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I spent my early twenties feeling messed up, lost, confused, struggling with concealed anxiety and not ever having a plan B. I’ve dedicated this site to spread the message that you’re allowed to sidetrack. You’re allowed to feel lost. You’re allowed to have moments where you don't love yourself. But you can never, ever let anyone fool you that you can’t do something. Including yourself. Trust me when I say that when your heart is broken, that’s when new light gets in. All your pain and struggles will produce understandings that create a new level of living. Keep pushing for your dreams. Never stop. You came to slay.

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61 Responses

  1. Olivia says:

    This blog post is very poorly written. I’d like you to take note to the quarter of it which is plagiarism and the rest which surrounding a loosely structured plot is merely cliches. Writing like this should not be promoted and I am very disappointed by this.

  2. I totally disagree, I think just the opposite.i think that all of our failed relationships, leads to the understanding of how all this works.and gets us ready to meet and live happily ever after with our soul mate that has been paved for us by the Devine higher power and universe

    • Charmaine says:

      Also I believe in helps us to get a better sense of ourselves as well. Through hardships and heartache we learn lessons and they help us to grow as people, gain more wisdom and knowledge, realize you stronger than you think. You need to go through heartache so you can appreciate it even more when you find that one who is meant for you. Everything happens for a reason.

  3. I really needed to read this today. Thank you to those in my past, I am grateful for our time together and how much you are helping me in my present to have the brightest future. Much love ❤️

  4. Oh my sweetheart I don’t know where you found that, but it has given structure to ungathered thoughts in my mind. It’s what I couldn’t quite grasp. This makes all sense to me now. It’s so very true and sad. I love you dearly my daughter.

  5. Soul mate is the one made..when we are also made in the world…soul mate is the one…who meet us definetely…
    But it depends upon us..that who are you??and how we behaves in differents situations…because soul mate is exactly the person which behaves like us,probably in all situations of life…
    You can read the ayyah of Sorah e Yaseen…
    “or Allah ny har cheez ka jora bnaya.”

  6. Who said this to you.??..that the person who give us the biggest lesson of the life is the one..which is our soul mate..

  7. Never thought of this concept. Words for thought.

  8. I met my soul mate and it was my deepest lesson I have ever experienced…a very deep connection and the break up was too painful leaving me broken …a year has passed and I’m only just validating why we had to meet and then go our separate ways

  9. Flicks Minis says:

    Hmmmm so basically a nasty little shite that wrecks things…wow ive met many soul mates then…i call them exs lol

  10. Janaki Bala says:

    Very nicely written Ananya.

  11. One way to validate the sadness of losing one I guess :(

  12. Tanya Huff says:

    Hmm….I guess that’s one way to look at it. It almost makes sense to me.

  13. white teeth says:

    Yes! Finally someone writes about teeth whitening tips.

  14. Toni Segarra says:

    Are we not twin souls? What basic difference between two people, if the two do not want to suffer, but enjoy not want the crushing burden of fear, wish health, good relationships, and money to survive?

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