The Main Difference Between Having A Lover Versus A Boyfriend

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The Main Difference Between Having A Lover And Being In A Relationship

A Lover Versus A Boyfriend

Are you confused with the difference between a lover and a relationship?What is the difference between a lover and a boyfriend?

You know a lot of women email me all the time asking me what the โ€œrulesโ€ are in the context of having a lover versus a boyfriend.

They ask me things like this: โ€œDavid, I donโ€™t understand what Iโ€™m allowed to share with a man. Iโ€™m a sexual being. I really just want to go there and enjoy myself and find a lover, but what can I talk about with my lover in bed? Are we just talking about sex? Are we just talking about dirty texting each other? Are we just talking about the things we want? Sometimes I just want to share with my love my day, or I want to share with my lover something thatโ€™s going on in my life.โ€

Hereโ€™s the difference between a lover and a relationship. I consider a lover to be somebody with whom you can get together to have fun. You get to share secrets with each other. You get to have a great time in bed. You share a wonderful evening together and experience what itโ€™s like having this temporary relationship.

Want more clarity about the difference between a lover and a proper relationship? Read The Key Differences Between Love and Lust

Itโ€™s just a relationship that temporarily satisfies you that night. When you and your lover leave the bed and you both go to work the next day, however, that conversation does not go further.

That conversation goes further in a relationship because thatโ€™s what a relationship is all about. When youโ€™re confessing things in bed in a relationship, you almost always the very next day want to send an email or have another conversation.

You want to take the conversation further, recap the prior nightโ€™s conversation or take that conversation to the next level. A relationship involves exposing the depth of who you are as a person.

Youโ€™re exposing that depth, and youโ€™re going deeper and deeper into that relationship. Youโ€™re exploring each other more and more. So those confessions in the middle of the night when youโ€™re in bed lead to more stimulating conversations the next day and lead to more personal discovery.

So when you find a lover, go ahead and confess away and talk about whatever you want. If you donโ€™t want your lover to be a relationship, though, then donโ€™t carry those conversations into the next day, because those kinds of confessions are only for people with whom you want to have a relationship.

Thatโ€™s the biggest difference. Trust your lover, and grow with your relationship.

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There is a whole lot of difference between a lover and a relationship. If you are someone who is stuck in this confusion, then hopefully these pointers can help you out with your predicament. Don’t stress out too much about this; everything will fall into place when the time comes.

If you want to know more about the difference between a lover and a relationship, then check out this video below: 

Written by David Wygant
Originally appeared on DavidWygnant.com

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