Embracing Your Darkest Emotions Is The Key To Your Psychological Well being

Embracing Your Darkest Emotions Is The Key To Your Psychological Well being

We live in the world of many ‘faces’. We are so many different people in front of others.

Sometimes our attempt to mould our personality to please others backfires. We are not able to distinguish between who we really are and what we are trying to project.

This sort of problem arises when you are not comfortable with who you really are. So to live a happy and fulfilling life, you must understand and accept your darkest emotions.

Burying them deep down is never a solution as that way they are bound to resurface.

The art of acceptance was developed by the oriental philosophy, where they focused on ‘Aatma Nirikshan’.

From there only, treatments like Cognitive therapy based on Mindfulness have emerged. Science also has now understood the importance of acceptance in tackling a number of problems related to depression and anxiety.

In an attempt to understand acceptance better, Brett Ford, Professor of Psychology, dives deep into this topic to collect scientific data.

According to her, Acceptance involves not trying to change how we are feeling, but staying in touch with your feelings and taking them for what they are.

Three fellow researchers of Ford also conducted the study on acceptance.

The study pointed out that accepting your darkest emotions results in the blunting down of your emotional abilities.

This, in turn, may not result in happiness, but it boosts your ability to handle emotional stress.

You’ll find it interesting to know that acceptance apparently seems to be linked with better overall mental health when it is used against negative emotions rather than positive ones.

In the study, it was found that acceptance works for almost everyone. It is not restrained to a specific socioeconomic or a racial group.

People of different backgrounds were equally proficient in managing their emotional problems using the technique of acceptance.

Furthermore, it is not limited to being used against any major emotional disturbance, but it can also be used against minor inconveniences. Making it a part of your everyday life is the best bet.

Ford mentions that Acceptance plays the most important role in the act of mindfulness. It is more linked with better mental health than other modes of mindfulness like ‘Non-Reactivity’ or ‘Observing’. She says, “Acceptance, non-judging acceptance, seems to be the key ingredient to mindfulness.”


Three Tests Of Acceptance

The results that Ford drew out of her study were derived from one or two parts of the three-part study.

  1. In the first part, 1000 questionnaires were sent to undergraduate students. The questions focused on psychological health and emotional stability. The results were reassuring as they showed that students who habitually practiced acceptance had less negative emotions and highly elevated level of well being.
  2. In the next study, 156 people were put in a stressful situation; they had to give a 3-minute speech pretending that they are giving it as a part of a job interview. Here also, the people who were more open towards acceptance were able to do considerably well. The subjects were so chosen that more than half of them had experienced a major stress (negative) in the past few months.
  3. For the final study, the researchers asked 222 people to keep a record (a diary) of the most stress inducing event of all the days for over 2 weeks. Here also, the people who had been practicing acceptance in the past fared really well. Their diary records proved that they took even the major stress inducing events lightly. They were able to cope up with the situation.


Resist The Urge To Strive For Happiness.

It is important to demarcate the boundaries of acceptance.

The word means that we need to accept the harsh realities, say, we need to understand that death is the ultimate reality; but acceptance does not by any means imply that you accept any wrongdoings.

Allowing injustice to happen to you is not acceptable. You must never endure injustice.

Svend Brinkmann, the professor at Aalborg University, explains how the negativities that come in life are not unavoidable and thus we must understand that these can simply be avoided by focusing on the positive aspects of life.

He says-People die in our lives, we lose them, if we have only been accustomed to being allowed to have positive thoughts, then these realities can strike us even more intensely when they happen—and they will happen.

Ford says that, while trying to stay away from negative emotions, we must not run after the positive ones also, as it deviates us from the state of calm.

Thus accepting your state and understanding your situation is the best way to have a healthy state of mind.

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Studies Suggest Swearing and Cursing Can Be Signs Of Superior Intelligence

Studies Suggest Swearing and Cursing Can Be Signs Of Superior Intelligence

According to studies swearing and cursing can be signs of superior intelligence.

You might be saying -”You f***ing kidding me”, my parents have been calling these abusers as dorks, how can these slangs prove intelligence!! Well read on, and you’ll be surprised.

Are you someone who thinks cursing is a bad habit? Or are you one of those people who think that other people, who swear a lot, are dumb?

Well, you are wrong here.

A recent study suggests quite the opposite. These people who curse and swear a lot might actually be very smart people. They can be the masters of the language and they basically understand every little nuance of what the language that they are speaking.

It is pertinent to make it clear from the get go that we are not talking about some sociopath who goes all crazy cursing and abusing people without any regard for others. Nor are we talking about the general abusers, who more often than not are dumb witted. Here we are talking about people who exhibit finesse even in their swearing and cursing, who know exactly what word they must use and when they should use it.

Cursing represents perhaps the most alluring correlation among intelligence and language.

Have you ever heard the name, George Carlin? He was a famous comedian who once said, “There are 400,000 words in the English Language, and there are 7 of them that you can’t say on television.

What a ratio that is!” He was infamous for being rude, crude, vile, vulgar, and lewd, and thus many critics didn’t praise him. But even those critics also agreed that he was an absolute master of language and was glib with his words. He swore a lot but was indubitably a comedic genius.

Earlier, there was a myth that people who swear a lot are dumb or foolish. It was thought that these people are not able to formulate meaningful sentences and thus end up swearing a lot.

They were looked down upon and not just in America but in almost every culture as well. They were treated as outcasts and as people who are not fit to live within the society.

But according to latest studies, this myth of relating taboo words with low intellect is completely baseless.

Through their research, psychologists from Massachusetts College of Liberal Arts were able to debunk this myth. In the study, they hypothesized that there exists no correlation among swearing and intellect.

This study was then published in the journal of “Language Sciences” and it effectively got rid of the popular myth that linked cursing with poor intellect. The conclusion made by the scientists was,

“A voluminous taboo lexicon may better be considered an indicator of healthy verbal abilities rather than a cover for their deficiencies. People who use taboo words understand their general expressive content as well as nuanced distinctions that must be drawn to use slurs appropriately.The ability to make nuanced distinctions indicates the presence of more rather than less linguistic knowledge, as implied by the POV or poverty of vocabulary view.”

They supplemented their conclusion with three main observations, these can be summarized as follows:

  • The habit of cursing or we may call it ‘taboo fluency is directly correlated with neuroticism and openness.
  • People who use this taboo language often possess a unique, rare talent of self-expression.
  • It may sound a little weird to you but, advanced practice and knowledge of these words show the presence of a vast verbal knowledge.