The codependency dance is described as the intimate relationship between two very broken, dysfunctional, opposing, but balanced people: the fixer and the people-pleaser.
When two people have a very close relationship, it’s natural to depend on each other for certain things. However, if one of you is toxic, this can lead to codependency.
Nothing hurts a narcissist more than ignoring them. There is no greater narcissistic injury than people turning back on them.
We each must find our way, learning to honor, express, and love our true Self. Every day, we have a chance to discover who we are, what we believe, feel, need, want, and value. Indeed, every moment provides opportunities to affirm our authentic Self.
It is an ironic paradox: being dependent makes us more independent.
– Sue Johnson
When we can really be anchored and rooted in this love that exists within us, then we’re not dependent on this other person, fearfully holding them to be responsible for a love that actually we can only ever find and access from within us.
-Meggan Watterson
“All happiness or unhappiness solely depends upon the quality of the [person] to which we are attached by love.” -Baruch Spinoza
Partners of narcissists feel torn between their love and their pain, between staying and leaving, but they can’t seem to do either.
Have you ever been in a relationship that is defined by codependency? Have you ever tried managing codependency, but have always fallen short?
