7. You’re riding an emotional roller coaster with your friend at the controls.
It started out as an amazing connection and you felt so bonded. But now, you can no longer predict what to expect. You always worry that she’s going to react negatively or get upset with you. When it’s good, it’s great. But then, for some unknown reason, you land on her enemies list, and… what’s going to happen next?
You feel uncomfortable, worried, scared, off-balance. You think about her from a one-down position. And then something wonderful happens—suddenly she’s full of appreciation for you again and you’re flying high. What were you worried about? Everything is fine. Then, the next day, you can’t get in touch with her. The inconsistency and lack of predictability leave you doubting everything. It’s crushing. Your self-esteem soars and then plummets.
8. The stress starts to settle in your body.
You’re somaticizing, actually feeling ill as the stress impacts your body. You get backaches, neck pain—maybe she’s really a pain in the neck? Instead of feeling bolstered by your connection, you start feeling weakened. Your body continues reacting. You feel anxious, experience headaches and stomach upset, or have a hard time getting out of bed.
Want to know more about a toxic friendship? Check this video out below!
When you’re in a great friendship, it boosts your immune system. But toxic friendships are sickening. While relationships often have ups and downs, if you’re on a wild ride, you may want to think about hopping off before you turn green. Friends are supposed to add to your life, not take away from it.
Sharon Livingston, Ph.D., is a psychologist, coach, business marketing consultant, and president of the ICCA (the International Coach Certification Alliance). She is the author of Get Lost, Girlfriend!: How I Found Myself When My Best Friend Dumped Me.
Written By Susan Heitler Originally Appeared In Psychology Today