The Day I Decided Happiness was Everything to Me

The Day I Decided Happiness was Everything to Me

I generally describe myself as a happy person, but there have been days in the past where I certainly didn’t feel that way. I’m someone who prides myself on being empathetic and even sensitive. It has its rewards, but when I’ve felt down—my funky mood has lasted for weeks, sometimes.

There came a day where I was so tired of feeling that way. Instead of staying in my funk, I decided to embrace my funkiness without apology and with open acceptance. My funk was this weird bundle of guilt at being too sensitive and feeling bad about being stuck in certain patterns. I felt like I was going nowhere. That was the day that I decided happiness had to be my everything.

 

Was I Sad, Depressed or Something Else?

How do you know whether you’re sad or depressed? Every emotion has a spectrum, and you are capable of feeling more than one emotion at a time. You are, after all, human.

Depression is not a casual term, but it is often used interchangeably with sadness. Depression refers to a mental and behavioral illness but shouldn’t be stigmatized. It’s known as the common cold of mental illness. The contributing causes vary, depending on stress, challenging life situations, hormone levels and family history. One in five women and one in ten men will become depressed in the course of their lives.

Depression can overtake other emotions in day to day life. So, it’s vital to have a strong support network of friends and family and a professional to help guide you through the ins and outs of what you’re experiencing. I think more people see psychologists than they care to admit. When you need support, you need it, and it’s okay to ask for help.

In daily life, sadness is a part of the spectrum of human emotion. When sadness lingers, a spark of happiness can shine a light into a dark day.

 

Igniting the Fire of my Happiness

Something in me was determined to find a spark to ignite the fire of my happiness. Sometimes, you need guidance to get that spark going, though.

There’s no one way to your bliss. It’s yours and you can always make more. Here are a few lessons I taught myself that day:

 

  • Hope the Best for Others on Your Bad Days

Interactions go more than one way, and everyone contributes to bad experiences. Hoping the best for others, genuinely, doesn’t erase anything negative that was said or actions taken that adversely affect you. What it does do is refocus positivity on the situation, and get you in the mood to make things right—if only to save your day.

 

  • There is Strength in Numbers: Turn to Your Allies

Turn your attention to your allies. Who are they? Name five now. It sounds silly, but that’s what I did. Here’s my hokey list:

  1. Dirty chai latte
  2. Charlie, the teddy bear I’ve had forever
  3. My best friends
  4. My journal
  5. Walks

I still use this list to check in with myself, and other items sometimes take the place of walks or my journal. This list reminds me of mindful moments and steps I took to make sure I was okay, that I was happy. People talk about self-care all the time, but you also have to do spontaneous acts of self-care for yourself, too. Prove to yourself that you are worthy of happiness by first loving yourself.

 

  • Thank Yourself, as Often as You Thank Others

Sometimes, the simplest act of showing yourself the way to happiness is by saying thank you. Expressing gratitude to others is a wonderful way find small rays of joy in your daily life, but it’s important to thank yourself, too.

Thank yourself for getting up, for your courage to make sacrifices and to defend your beliefs. Thank yourself for genuine acts of self-care: making yourself a big breakfast or preparing yourself a hot bath. Sometimes, you have to give yourself space to laugh or cry, or enjoy a warm cup of coffee. Gratitude can even be a serious and silly as thanking yourself for looking amazing today.

 

Do Something Ridiculously Silly, Right Now

If you feel crazy, act a little crazy. Don’t get kicked out of the grocery store, but if a song you love comes on, dance a little in public. Why not? Give yourself and others a good laugh to break up the monotony. Enjoy the spontaneity of the moment.

Break the pattern, if negative brain chatter is taking up too much space in your head. You can challenge what’s in your mind by speaking up, but acting a little silly is a physical way of making your body and mind focus on other things.

Be ridiculous. You don’t have anything to lose, but you do have many smiles to gain.

I learned many important lessons the day I decided that happiness was everything to me. Those lessons reminded me of how to use my sense of humor and empathy to get my joyful spark back in the moment. A little spark can start a big fire, and today I’m radiant!

— Share —

— About the Author —

Responses

Leave a Reply

— Follow Us —

Up Next

Forgiveness After The Storm

Forgiveness After The Storm

The muse of poetry in its depths stalls the ensue of thee,Drowning in the sparse spectacle of hope left, one dives into the waters of misery.Triabilsing in the painful stance of existence, death in its allure creeps behind,To be or not be in the bane of tormenting breaths, in their truth one seems to find,

The hostility that binds, convulsion in its gloating flair laughs hysterically at the corpse of being,Dreariness to live in its slow burn writhes the only ounce of light left to see.The void of embracing the freshness of unadulterated air forges to question the beauty,Of living a life that could lead in the lightness of radiance and the smiles of unbridled glee.

The trueness of being lapses in the oscillation of turbulence and the sea of calm,Yet the tides of uncertain syllables that breed animosity render the sou

Up Next

Beyond Materialism: The Psychological Motivations Behind Retail Therapy

Beyond Materialism

Most people can understand the happiness that comes from purchasing something for oneself when we talk about needing some retail therapy. Can shopping truly improve our mood? Clinical psychologist Scott Bea, PsyD, affirms that shopping can have psychological and therapeutic benefits as long as it is done in moderation, according to research. Engaging in shopping activities, whether online or in person, can provide a psychological and emotional boost. Even just browsing can bring happiness, but it’s important to be mindful of your spending habits. Dr. Bea outlines various explanations for the phenomenon.

Shopping helps to regain a feeling of power or authority

Research demonstrates that engaging in shopping activities can help individuals feel more in control of their

Up Next

Mind Over Met Gala: Analyzing the Intersection of Fashion and Mental Health in 2024

Mind Over Met Gala

The most confidential information about the 2024 Met Gala, which will take place on the first Monday in May, is now known. A total of 250 objects, many of which have never been seen in public before, will be on display in the Costume Institute’s “Sleeping Beauties: Reawakening Fashion” exhibition at The Metropolitan Museum of Art in 2024. Before the much-awaited event, Vogue is compiling all of the information we currently know.

What theme will the 2024 Met Gala have?

The official dress code for the 2024 Met Gala is “The Garden of Time,” in honour of the Costume Institute’s upcoming exhibition, “Sleeping Beauties: Reawakening Fashion.” About 250 rare objects from the Costume Institute’s permanent collection will be on display. The designs, which span more than 400 years of f

Up Next

The Aesthetic Epidemic: Understanding the Roots of Lookism

The Aesthetic Epidemic

We care about more than just ourselves – we care about our loved ones, our communities, and the world around us. We are affected by tragic events, especially when a child is murdered, regardless of where it happens. It deeply impacts us and makes us feel disheartened. Moral evils raise doubts about the goodness of the world and the value of existence, especially for those who believe in a benevolent deity. However, anyone can contemplate the purpose and value of the universe in light of such evils. We may not need to worry about the value of the Universe and instead focus on finding value in our own lives or the lives of our loved ones. The concept of value is subjective and can be created by us.

The important question is what we should value or find pleasure in. Some people may try to ignore moral evil by focusing only on their own lives and loved ones, but this narrow perspective is unsatisfying for most. I

Up Next

An Open Letter To The Hustlers

An Open Letter To The Hustlers

To be or not to be, to go all in or to unwind and relax, we question our dreams, running in constant chase of our quests to come true, we are the ones who never sleep. Dreamers we are called, the ones who passionately strive in the endeavours of the best they could ever be, here is a letter to me, a letter to you. In the stride of embracing the best you have ever been, nurture your soul before the onset of the abundance in you that lies unseen.

Too bold, too much for your age, you are doing too much, how often have you heard these notions been used to describe you? As we tirelessly strive to achieve the next goal we have in our mind, we are often told that we are being hard on ourselves, to enjoy life a little. Life in its entirety passes by us in its dynamic flair, and the existence we envisage holds unique individuality to each one of us. The choices one makes for themselves belies them and them only, and t

Up Next

How To Remain Centered And Calm In Face Of Difficulty

My life is a mess and I have nothing to be grateful about! I witness myself say this phrase from time to time, where life plonks us into the desperation of ebb and flow of wilderness and things not going in our favour.

It is easy to say we are grateful and in complete balance when things are going well and life feels like the warm embrace of the sun shining on a Sunday morning. But the real test lies in remaining grateful and centred when life feels like spinning out of control.

While it is easier said than done, here are some reminders that might help you get through the days that feel like a burden –

1) This too shall pass, no moment in time that feels permanent loses its impermanence. We often lose hope when things don’t go our way and during these sad days, we should remember, that t

Up Next

15 Most Liberating Thoughts For Someone Who Needs It

Our life unfolds in a succession of revelations of who we are. It is when we sit down and repeat the same sentence in our head over and over again, in every action we perform, every activity we indulge ourselves in, does it indulges into our existence as a habit.

The key to having a sense of liberation is allowing life to flow through, not forcing anything and more essentially not resisting change. I believe that our life improves in the direct proportionality of how often we are exposed to situations where are forced to challenge our age-old beliefs and counterfeited perceptions and seek the greater version of ourselves. When we get too comfortable in the comfort zones we build for ourselves, we do not grow into the people we are meant to be. Sadly most people embrace change only when metamorphosis is the less painful and only possible option.

I know that