The Art of Unrequited Love

Rode Albino

“Wise men say only fools rush in, but I can’t help falling In love with you….”

 

Have you ever loved someone before who doesn’t love you back? Have you ever cried yourself to sleep and waking up lonely the next day?

 

Unrequited Love — °

 

Unrequited Love is the kindest love of all.

It is a selfless but painful choice.It’s  taking the risk to fall or not to fall inlove with a particular person. A person who doesn’t feel the same way about you. You are willingly breaking your heart for someone who thinks you’re just one of the blurry, unfamiliar faces among the crowd or doesn’t see you the same way you see them. You are loving despite everything because you know that no matter how hard you try, sometimes love just can’t be reciprocated.

 

Why do you get hurt? The most obvious and immediate answer most of us say is that simply because “he doesn’t love me back.” It hurts to accept this as a fact but what’s wrong in this statement is that you’re like putting the blame entirely on the other person. You’re saying that the reason why you’re hurting is that person who just can’t reciprocate your love. And that is not right. It’s not right to blame someone just because they don’t love you. It’s not right to blame them because they’re honest.

 

“You ask me if I love you and I choke on my reply, I’d rather hurt you honestly than mislead you with a lie “

 

The truth is, you are hurting because you have already decided that he is The One you’ve been waiting for. You have projected all your fantasies onto him from how will your wedding day looks like, how big your house will be and how many children you want to have even if you know these will most probably not happen.You are still hoping and believing that it’s just a matter of time until he realizes that you really are the one or him. You have made him into someone you want him to be—that is, to be The One for you. That is selfishness. You became Hopelessly Futuristic. And this is not right.

 

The truth is, unrequited love is meant to be painful. Just because it hurts, doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It’s not wrong to love him; what’s wrong is that you’re making yourself believe that he is the one meant to make your dreams come true. And maybe he is not. Maybe you’re just making yourself fall in love with an idea. Maybe it’s just a delusion.

 

The truth is, there is a reason why your love is unrequited. The reason why you two are not together is not just because he hasn’t met you yet or he is still in love with another person. Maybe the reason is that you two are meant for other people. Maybe your best friend, or your high school classmate, or that man next to your unit, or the stranger on the bus, or your childhood playmate, or even your worst enemy. No one knows what lies ahead of us. And that makes our life super duper ultra mega exciting !!

 

You can choose to still hopelessly go after him or you can choose to love someone who truly loves you.

 

The point is, unrequited love is meant to be kind and not selfish. So stop imagining your future with someone who doesn’t know you in the present and is probably imagining his future with someone else. Do not fantasize so much about The One. Do not make people into someone they are not. Do not expect them to find their way to you. Because in the end, it’s only you who will get hurt. Remember this: you are not pathetic, okay? You are generous, kind, and selfless.

 

Isn’t it beautiful to sincerely love someone from afar without expecting to be loved back?

 

Don’t worry. Someday, you will meet The Real One, the one who is real enough to truly love you. But for now, focus on yourself; imagine your own future. You are the only one who can make your dreams come true. Just know that there is someone out there who will see you clearly among the crowd and give you the truest love that you deserve.

 

 

“Now it’s time to face the truth I will never be with you.”

 

 

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