Are you wondering what is the secret to overcome obstacles and get everything you want in life? There are people who achieve their dreams, while some give up. It’s all about the mindset! Let us see how you too can get what you want in life.
Once upon a time, there was a ruler of the ancient Greek city of Sypilus called Tantalus. He was invited to dine with the great Greek gods on mount Olympia, where he stole some exotic fruits to share with the ordinary people. Of course, this made the Gods angry for betraying their hospitality. To please them, Tantalus then sacrificed his own son and offered him to the Gods. Goes without saying, this made things even worse.
As a punishment, the Gods threw Tantalus in the deepest part of the Underworld, reserved for evildoers. His damnation? — He was sentenced to sit in a pool of water, with fruits over his head. Every time he wanted to take a sip, the water receded. And when he reached for the fruit, it moved up.
Simply put, it was a life of eternal frustration and dissatisfaction.
This story of king Tantalus very likely echoes with anyone with big goals who’s tried to achieve them all and have fallen short—which captures most of us really.
It’s certainly a tantalizing feeling.
Often, success seem so close on the horizon and yet—so far when we try to go after what we want. And every time we fail, we sit there, stewing in the juices of our own humiliation and disappointment, paralysed and frequently discouraged.
If you take it a bit further and do a post-mortem analysis of what happened, the reasons for not succeeding boil down to few common reasons.
So, here is my advice on how to get over these hurdles and get closer to everything you want in life:
4 Steps To Get What You Want In Life
1. Know What You Want
Don’t fall into the too-broad fallacy. We often fail because our goals are too general or too vague.
Don’t just say: “I want to be rich,” or “I want to be successful.” That’s very undefined. Success has many faces, it means pretty much something different to every one of us.
Be explicit—for example “I want to finish my book by the end of the year,” “I want to become a vice president next year,” “I want to have my own business by the time I’m 30.”
It doesn’t matter how big or “crazy” your dream is. To be able to plan to “get there,” you must have a very good idea of what and where “there” is.
So, get down to the nitty-gritty details and set for yourself some S.M.A.R.T goals.
2. Believe in You
We sometimes think that our goals are out of our league—that they are too big and impossible, and that we are mad for dreaming about them. And that we don’t have what it takes to achieve them—that we don’t have the needed skills, abilities, mojos.
But remember that it may be all subjective, a perception. So, if you think you are lacking something which stops you from shooting for your stars, assess realistically—is it your low self-esteem talking, or you actually need to take some additional training or practice more.
What psychologists call self-efficacy, or the belief that we can achieve our goals, has been found to be paramount in successfully completing them. To build a belief in You, run a strength inventory. Remind yourself of past successes.
Often, we are so focused on the negative, our shortcomings, the dark in us, that we forget to look at the light and what makes us worthy.