Staying neutral may seem more difficult for kids and teens in school, but it can still be done. For example, if there’s a group of three kids who used to eat lunch together, but now two of the friends have split ways, you can let your friends know that you want to maintain friends with both of them. The neutral friend can try taking turns having lunch with the two friends in conflict. There may be times; however, when it’s not possible to divide your time.
For example, if you’re having a party or planning to do something that you know both of your friends would enjoy and you don’t want to pick one friend over another, you might consider extending an invitation to both and letting them know that they’ve both been invited.
You should never choose sides or drop a friend because you feel pressured to do so. A true friend should not ask or expect you to do that. Be true to yourself and honest with others. Sometimes, despite trying your best to maintain friendships with two people who don’t get along, you may end up realizing that your own relationship with one or both friends has been impacted.
For example, if one of your friends has repeatedly shown that she doesn’t respect your decision to be friends with both or is trying to force you to choose sides, you may need to take time to evaluate that friendship.
Being on good terms with both of your friends who don’t get along at all, can be difficult sometimes. But if you feel that both of their friendships are equally important to you, then you can use these pointers to have a healthy and genuine friendship with them, without feeling the need to choose between the two.