We all know that breakups are hard, but it feels like the proverbial nail in the coffin the moment you realize that your ex has blocked you. Before he made an effort to press the “block” button, you still had some hope that the two of you could get back together. Right now, that scenario feels impossible.
So, not only do you feel broken because your relationship ended but you’re also devastated that your ex doesn’t want anything to do with you. It’s obvious that your story has come to an end, you’re aware of that.
But truth be told, it doesn’t make this whole situation any easier.
You’re left wondering what should be your next step if any. How do you move on after everything you’ve been through? How do you accept that your relationship is over and the fact that your ex blocked you is actually good for you?
Even though you don’t feel like doing anything, you must pick yourself up and keep walking. Things didn’t turn out the way you expected them to, but that’s no reason to give up on yourself.
The time has come for you to realize that your life doesn’t stop the moment your relationship ends or your ex blocks you. Having that state of mind won’t get you anywhere and that’s why you have to do something about it.
Here are some steps you should take that can help you ease the heartbreaking pain your ex left the moment he blocked you.
1. Accept your emotions
Take some time and allow yourself to process everything you’ve been through. Your relationship ended, your ex blocked you and as a result, you feel like your life has lost its point.
No one wants to go through these emotions, but unfortunately, they’re a normal part of the healing process. The more you pressure yourself to ignore your feelings, the longer it’ll take you to move on.
So, instead of pretending that everything’s okay, you need to be real with yourself.
How did you feel when you found out your ex blocked you? Did it shatter your already broken heart? Do you have this need to go banging on his door, begging him to come back?
These emotions are natural and they’re just a part of the process. You have to let yourself feel if you want to heal. Let that be your after-breakup mantra.
You’re not the only person ever who’s felt this way. Just the opposite, you’re one of many who have gone through the same experience and found a way to move on.
Yell, cry, and take some time off. Do whatever will make you feel better.
But don’t even think about giving up on love. Don’t ever think that you’re not worthy of someone better…
2. Don’t try to reach out to your ex
I understand you’re angry that he blocked you. You want to have a word with him. I also get that you feel like he hasn’t given you a chance to express how you’re feeling.
At this point, it’s only natural that you want to reach out to him and ask him to talk. Either because you want to get back together with him or simply because you think that you deserve closure.
But sometimes, the things we want the most are the ones that actually bring us the most pain. In this case, your ex is just a jellyfish that will sting you the moment you get close to him. He won’t help you move on but will only make you feel more pain than before.
So don’t even think about calling him if he still hasn’t blocked your number. Don’t reach out to him using your friend’s phone as you have no other way to contact him. And finally, don’t even think about looking for him at his place or work.
If he wanted to talk to you, he wouldn’t go out of his way to block your number or social media profile. That’s a sign that you shouldn’t be looking for him as he sure isn’t spending his days waiting to hear from you.
3. Stop stalking him
Just because you shouldn’t reach out to him, it doesn’t mean that you’re allowed to stalk him from a distance. I know how things work and I strongly advise against going down that road.
If you focus your time and energy on a person who’s only a part of your past, you willingly choose to waste your time.
You’ll start visiting places he usually goes to simply because you want to “accidentally” walk into him. You’ll scroll through his social media profiles using your friends’, sisters’, and coworkers’ phones. And just like that, you’ll fall into a vicious circle that’s virtually impossible to get out of.
Your ex blocked you because he wanted to stop you from reaching out to him. That’s why stalking him to see what’s going on in his life makes no sense.
It will only deepen your wound and prolong your pain. And I’m certain that’s not something you want to happen.
4. Focus on yourself
If your ex blocked you, then you’re the one who won. You haven’t allowed yourself to stoop so low and act all immature.
That’s why you have no reason to think about him but should rather focus on yourself. Shift your attention to the most important person in your life – YOU.
Start doing more of the things that make you happy. Take long walks, go hiking, play tennis. Finally, sign up for that yoga class and master a skill you always wanted to learn.
This is your chance to do something rewarding for yourself while you’re in the process of healing. Fast forward a year and you’ll be glad that you chose to focus on yourself and not on the one who broke your heart.
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