This is the single best Ask Amy response I’ve ever read

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This is the single best Ask Amy response I've ever read
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Another AMY Asks classic: 

DEAR AMY: I recently discovered that my son, who is 17, is a homosexual. We are part of a church group and I fear that if people in that group find out they will make fun of me for having a gay child.

He wonโ€™t listen to reason, and he will not stop being gay. I feel as if he is doing this just to get back at me for forgetting his birthday for the past three years โ€” I have a busy work schedule.

Please help him make the right choice in life by not being gay. He wonโ€™t listen to me, so maybe he will listen to you. โ€” Feeling Betrayed

DEAR BETRAYED: You could teach your son an important lesson by changing your own sexuality to show him how easy it is. Try it for the next year or so: Stop being a heterosexual to demonstrate to your son that a personโ€™s sexuality is a matter of choice โ€” to be dictated by oneโ€™s parents, the parentsโ€™ church and social pressure.

I assume that my suggestion will evoke a reaction that your sexuality is at the core of who you are. The same is true for your son. He has a right to be accepted by his parents for being exactly who he is.

When you โ€œforgetโ€ a childโ€™s birthday, you are basically negating him as a person. It is as if you are saying that you have forgotten his presence in the world. How very sad for him.

Pressuring your son to change his sexuality is wrong. If you cannot learn to accept him as he is, it might be safest for him to live elsewhere.

Read Haunting Photo Series Explores Homosexuality In India

A group that could help you and your family figure out how to navigate this is Pflag.org. This organization is founded for parents, families, friends and allies of LGBT people, and has helped countless families through this challenge. Please research and connect with a local chapter.


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    Janine Stranger

    hahaha love it. Hope the sister realises she wouldn’t like them and be grateful.. that felt wonderful…

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