Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn Responses\r\nThe \u2018please\u2019 or \u2018fawn\u2019 response is an often overlooked survival mechanism to a traumatic situation, experience or circumstance.\r\nNonetheless the \u2018please\u2019 response is a prevalent one especially with complex trauma or CPTSD and is acted out as a result of the high-stress situations that have often been drawn out.\r\nAs any survival response; like flight, fight or freeze, a please or fawn response is to manage a state of danger or potential danger.\r\nThe please response is the most thoughtful and complex response to deal with as it encompasses monitoring and feeling into other people\u2019s state of mind (often the aggressor) in order to anticipate a situation and respond by adapting and pleasing in order to evade confrontation or before a situation becomes aggravated.\r\n\r\nIt is also one of the most cumbersome and exhausting responses as it takes great resource to play through potential future scenarios.\r\n\r\n \r\nFight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn: The Difference between Empathy and the Fawn Response\r\nA please response is not the same as empathy, and I think there is some confusion there. Healthy empathy is to be able to feel into other people\u2019s situation without losing your sense of self and the importance of your own needs. With a please or fawn response you have given up a sense of self, a sense of healthy identity and have taken on responsibilities that aren\u2019t yours to carry. It is a survival response made in a time of need, but in the long run you pay a hefty price for it.\r\n\r\nOnce emotional residue, related to your past, is contained, access to healthy empathy might be more readily available if your previous habitual response was a please response. Each survival response, once contained, have their strengths to be harvested.\r\n\r\n \r\nSurviving a Complex Trauma Situation by adapting to a Please Response\r\nAs mentioned briefly before; when you resort to a please response you take on responsibilities which aren\u2019t yours to bear.\r\nLet\u2019s look at an example to clarify this behavior:\r\nClare grows up with a mother who has episodes of being suicidal and emotionally unstable. In her day to day goings her mom is demanding, ambitious and meticulously organized. In order to avoid confrontation and to assist the impossible neurotic episodes of her mom, Clare adopts the please response towards her. She anticipates her moods, tries to excel at school, and to meet her mothers demands.\r\n\r\nThe \u2018choice\u2019 to please and adapt to her mom\u2019s needs and \u2018forget\u2019 her own, is not done at a fully conscious level. It is a choice forged out of the best possible survival option to deal with what is at hand. It is made out of absolute necessity.\r\nBe a little kind to the child in you!\r\nHow are you exhibiting your please response, and in which area of your life does it show? Relationship, with your children, your work or with friends? Leave your comments below.\r\n \r\n\r\nRelated Video -\u00a0The Mirror Effect Of The Empath: Why Some People Dislike You Instantly\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nBecome a Contributor at The Minds Journal\r\nWe Want To Hear Your Story. Share your work,thoughts and writings and we will make sure, it reaches the world! Submit Now\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nOriginally appeared on Rolandbal.com\r\n\r\nPrinted with Prior Permission\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n \r\nYou May Also Like\r\n\r\n \tDear Empath. Do Your Feel Guilty For Taking Care Of You?\r\n \tThe 5 Powers Of Empaths\r\n \tDear Empath. Do Your Feel Guilty For Taking Care Of You?\r\n \tAre Empaths Signs of a New Human Evolution?