10 Signs that Your Childhood with an Alcoholic Parent Is Still Affecting You Today

10 Signs that Your Childhood with an Alcoholic Parent Is Still Affecting You Today

The family is the main source of socialization, nurturing, and attachment for children. When children grow up in the surrounding of an alcoholic parent, all these aspects of their development are being disturbed.

Statistics show that more than 8 million children under the age of 18 live with at least one adult with a substance use disorder. The rate is higher than one in 10. The studies identify that this situation has a significant influence on the child’s emotional and behavioral development. In addition, it increases the likelihood that the child will struggle with substance use problems, too.

All this is a theory, but it may seem too close to your reality if you were a child of an alcoholic. Chances are, the consequences of your parent’s lifestyle are still affecting you today. You promised yourself to stay strong despite all troubles you faced while growing up, but it’s not easy to deal with a background this difficult.

If you recognize the signs that indicate the effect this background has on you, it will be easier for you to work on the negative character traits. You’ll identify the reason and you’ll address the cause.

Here are 10 signs that show how your childhood with an alcoholic parent is still affecting you today:

You Can’t Deal with Yelling

Yelling. That was probably part of your daily life as a child. When you heard the noise, you knew something bad was going to happen. You’re still affected by the fear of a raised voice. When you hear someone arguing, you do not know how to react.
It’s not uncommon for a raised voice to cause tears in people who were affected by a parent’s alcoholism as they were growing up.

 

⦁ You Are Incredibly Sensitive

Although you shut down your emotions in front of other people, you are incredibly sensitive deep inside. Growing up with an alcoholic made you experience sadness, anger, hope, and all kinds of mixed emotions. Most of all, you were sensitive to criticism.
Maybe, like most other children of alcoholics, you learned how to keep your poker face in front of other people. Deep inside, however, you’re experiencing an emotional storm and you have difficulties to deal with it.

 

⦁ You Have Trust Issues

Alcoholics often promise they will change. Some of them really want to change. They will do their best to stay clean, but they will fail under the first sign of pressure. If your parent was like that, their attitude caused you some trust issues. Just when you thought things were getting better, you faced another one of their failures.
This is why many children of such families grow up as emotionally cold persons. They have a hard time to trust anyone, and those issues deeply affect their intimate relationships and friendships.

 

⦁ You’re a Perfectionist

You were always doing your best to avoid criticism, weren’t you? You were always trying to prove your worth by achieving more and becoming more. Not only because you wanted to please your parent, but also because you wanted to become something more than them.
This often occurs with children of alcoholic parents.
Marion Roberts, a career advisor at Resumes Planet, explains how perfectionism affects these people’s professional lives: “When combined with low self-confidence, perfectionism puts them in a constant attempt to prove themselves. They devote themselves to the work and don’t abandon a task until it’s perfectly done. This is not a good habit. Perfection is an unachievable category. When you focus so much on one thing, you lose yourself in all other aspects of your life.”

 

⦁ You’re Emotionally Numb

Do you remember the constant attempts to make your parent happy as you were growing up? You said yes to please them, believing that would make them less angry.
Children of alcoholic parents often grow up as emotionally-numb individuals. They are ignoring their own feelings and emotions, and they don’t bother thinking about how they want or need things to be.

 

⦁ You Cannot Attach Yourself to a Home

For children of alcoholic parents, the home is a scary place. It’s an unpredictable environment that can be happy from time to time, but it’s mostly chaotic. You did not grow up with the feeling that home was your safe spot, and you may still feel that way.

The Drunk You Is The Real You (According To Science)

The Drunk You Is The Real You (According To Science)

Don’t give me that look, not me, science says ‘the drunk you is real you’.

Every time we are drunk we do some stupid actor at least we feel we are doing something foolish and when sober we love putting the blame for all the bad decisions on our drunken alter ego, but not anymore fellas, science says the drunk you in all entirety is real you.

According to a study conducted by the University of Missouri, none except you can pretty much tell the difference between drunk you and sober you.

Saddening? Heartbreaking? Upsetting? Lol

Researchers divided volunteers into groups, some were given alcohol with sprite and other just plain soda. Then they were asked to perform few activities in presence of observers.

The results are pretty baffling, the participants who were on alcohol felt the change in themselves that the observers didn’t notice.

The drunken participants felt changes within their senses but the observant failed to notice any. Those volunteers who were on alcohol felt reported a lower level of consciousness, felt they were more agreeable, more open to experiences, and felt more extroverted. However, the observant only noticed them being more extroverted, rest didn’t make the cut.

So to sum it up people notice you start getting loud and being more outgoing after few pegs down, the rest it’s all in your head.

So the next time you wake up with a hangover and wonder how awful last night you were, just know ‘not really as bad as you think’.

It’s kind of comforting to know that you don’t really get awkward situations when then drunk. It also means you don’t turn into that fun loving super cool dude, you just remain the same as you are, just a little bit stinky of course.
What about in vino veritas?

Well maybe they missed it in the survey or if they didn’t we would like to disagree already because we all have said something while drunk that we are embarrassed of.

Next time don’t blame your drunk self for texting your ex or getting on knees for that cute girl or swearing at the friend you hate, it is you, it always is you.


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Can Alcohol Ever Be Considered a Shamanic Sacrament?

Shamanic substances are medicines administered by a trusted and legitimate practitioner for the purpose of physical and spiritual wellbeing. In a way, shamans are a lot like doctors, but they depend less on procedures and synthetic chemicals/drugs, instead they opt for more natural and holistic approaches; favoring to journey with the ill person, so that the experience can be guided and as rewarding and fulfilling as possible.

Traditional shamanic sacraments include: the jungle brew, Ayahuasca; Yopo; Psilocybin Mushrooms; Iboga; Amanita Muscaria; Datura; Peyote; and the like. Even Cannabis can be used for healing purposes. Keep in mind, even in the developed, secular, Western world, cannabis is noted for its medical benefits, in addition to how fun and inspiring it can be.

But now, a new cast of substances are beginning to be considered “sacramental.” Substances like LSD, DMT, MDMA, Mescaline, Ketamine, and similar compounds, produce effects similar to that of traditional medicines, mainly because these newer compounds are just the medicines’ active compounds, synthesized. Granted, using “artificial” chemicals to induce transcendental states is technically non-traditional, but as long as those states can be reached, and the experience can be guided by either a sober “trip-sitter,” or someone who is well versed in taking sacramental substances enough to handle him or herself on his or her own, then there is no issue. In a way, drugs are a shortcut to states normally reached my sleep/sensory deprivation, fasting, prayer, meditation, breathing exercises, or yoga; so a shortcut to traditional medicines, especially when access to them is difficult in many places, shouldn’t be an issue.

But one substance that continually “gets the shaft,” so to speak, is alcohol. Now, this isn’t typically considered sacramental, in the shamanic sense, for a number of reasons, many of which include lewd behavior and thought processes and becoming violently ill, possibly even coming close to dying. After all, alcohol is just fermented sugar(s), and we all know how deadly sugar can be.

However, people are quick to extol the virtues of booze. Many celebrate it as a way to shake off any inhibitions, social or otherwise, which can be exhilarating and allow one to meet new people and partake in enriching experiences. Of course, the converse is that a person can perhaps become rendered “too sociable” or gets incoherent or even violent, and that those “enriching experiences” can endanger one’s health, security, and reputation. Granted, the risk-taking behavior is another element of getting drunk that people champion. Living outside one’s comfort zone, whether the experience(s) are/is appropriate, are ultimately beneficial to an individual, permitting he or she is unscathed (personally, physically) after it’s all said and done.

Alcohol was once considered “medicine” in Western society, but this was before modern medicine was really developed and when medical ignorance was bliss. But alcohol’s usage was completely unjustified, no. Since alcohol is, well, alcohol, it was used to clean wounds and such. When hygiene wasn’t a priority for medical professionals to pay any mind to, it paid to have a bottle of liquor nearby in case it was needed. Being drunk also helped people undergo harrowingly painful surgeries. The pain hurt a hell of a lot less when the patient was intoxicated, and drinking could potentially allow one to pass out, thereby acting as a discount anesthetic.

And it’s not just former doctors who deemed booze useful, the religious have held certain stiff drinks in high acclaim for centuries now. Particularly Christians. To them, communal wine represents and actually is (depends on which denomination one subscribes to) the blood of Jesus Christ, the messiah. Monks even brewed and drank beer for when they were supposed to fast. And the Christians are likely to have stolen/exercised creative mythological license when they studied the stories of Dionysus/Bacchus, the Greek/Roman god of wine. Among other things. In fact, pagans took to alcohol relatively well since their numbers were smaller and easier to control. With fewer people, rules were easier to have everyone adhere to and this allowed for more beneficial instances of alcohol intoxication. Alcohol was one of the first mind-altering substances humankind encountered. Fermented fruits provided the first spiked beverages, which quickly lead to humans adopting booze as a staple “foodstuff,” prompting continued chemical collaboration.