Why You Should Allow Yourself to Have Occasional Sad Days

Occasional Sad Days

I have recently had several sad days, especially during this time. The first sad day was one day that I bit my brother’s head off. I woke up angry at this whole situation. At this pandemic and not seeing my friends for months at this point. I actually woke up crying etc. It lasted for a little bit and then I calmed down, but I was sad for that entire day.

About a month or so ago, I had another sad day. Why? because I had spent a year planning a surprise brunch for one of my best friend’s 30th big milestone birthday with the help of his sister. We had a venue, guest list, theme, etc. This was planned for back in April, and we had decided to hold off and see what happened with this pandemic. We were possibly going to have it at a later date around summertime. But due to this pandemic, I was not comfortable with having it. So, I decided to cancel the brunch. Yes, that was the right decision, but that does not mean I am not sad about it. That’s a year of hard work down the drain that I knew he would have enjoyed and for that, along with the fact I wasn’t able to meet people I had gotten to know while planning this. I was sad.

So for these two days, I allowed myself to be sad about these things because if I didn’t I was going to explode with emotions at a later date when it wasn’t necessary or just out of nowhere with no explanation as to why I might be sad or even crying.

I think having a sad day from time to time is needed. Why? because it is important to get it out when necessary because everybody gets sad. There is no shame in having sad days because believe it or not we all have them whether we like to admit it or not. It happens, we are human, imperfect and we have emotions. Sometimes we do not like showing emotions and let them build and build over time. Suddenly something small happens and you are sad and might be crying for no reason because you let it build and didn’t get out when necessary.

I personally think if we as a society allowed ourselves to be vulnerable and be willing to let those emotions out and show them to ourselves and deal with them when they arise and not just let it sit there and get worse and worse. We might be more in tune with how we are feeling and normalize being sad.

I do not think we do that as a society enough. We view getting sad as part of depression or mental illness when being sad is something we all deal with. It is nothing to be ashamed of or hide because you may be embarrassed or feel like you can’t do it because of how we may be viewed by friends, family, and society as a whole.

What bothers me most about being sad is that people ask me why I am sad sometimes and ask me what is wrong. Well, a pandemic is going on and that is messing with what I have planned. It is making me sad that I cannot see my friends like I normally would due to this craziness.

I am sure I am not the only person who feels this way especially this year with what we all have missed I think once we stop the stigma we have created of being sad and show that it’s okay, we will be more okay with showing how we truly feel instead of having to hide it because of being fearful of what others and society might think. I think if we all did this, we would be better as a society mentally.