Invalidating Vs. Validating

Invalidating Vs Validating

Invalidating

  • I don’t know why you’re so upset; it’s not a big deal.
  • I already apologized, can’t we just move on?
  • You never respond to me
  • It’s ridiculous you’re upset because you know I love you

Validating

  • Clearly this is a big deal to you. How can I support you right now?
  • Maybe you want something in addition to “I’m sorry.” Maybe you want to know I really understand how it affected you.
  • I don’t want you to feel attacked because I know you care; but at the same time I feel shut out when I don’t hear back from you.
  • I love you very much and I need to know you know that. It’s also important for me to understand why this is affecting you like it is.
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Alphonse Lamartine

Experienced Editor with a demonstrated history of working in the online media industry. Skilled in Content Writing, Content Curation, Proofreading, Social Media, and Editing. You can find me writing mostly about relationship issues at work.View Author posts