Why Love Finds You When You Stop Looking For The One

Looking For The One

What if we used dating as a platform to develop self psycho-spiritually? You could view every person you meet as an entire universe waiting to be cracked open by the quality of your questions. They come with a whole history behind them, as well as hopes and dreams and new perspectives that could potentially widen and enrich your own worldview.

Very different than suffering through just to get to the other side of coupledom, isn’t it?

Ultimately, the more you can relish the gift of being single and the exploration process of dating with gratitude, the more likely it is you’ll bring excitement and positive emotions to the experience, and actually meet someone who will knock your socks off.

Why? Because your ability to enjoy exactly where you’re at at the moment is what you’re presenting to a potential partner, and if you’re having fun and being yourself without bringing along your Representative, you’re attractive. But if you’re presenting criticism, and merely tolerating the experience of “yet another date that probably won’t go anywhere”, that too comes through, and guess what — it’s not attractive.

How has this landed for you? Can you relate to these ideas? If you’re ready to take that next step and dip a toe back into the dating pond but feel like you need to clear out some negative perceptions around the experience or yourself, send me an email at clayton@claytonolsoncoaching.com. I’d love to hear what’s real for you with this.


Written by: Clayton Olson
Originally appeared on: claytonolsoncoaching.com and is republished here with permission.

Clayton Olson is an International Relationship Coach, Master NLP Practitioner, and Facilitator. He delivers private virtual coaching sessions and leads online group workshops. Register for his free webinar that reveals the 3 Keys to Attracting and Keeping a High-Quality Man or grab his free guide 5 Secrets To Create A Rock Solid Relationship.  

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Clayton Olson

Clayton Olson is an International Relationship Coach, Author, and Facilitator. He delivers private virtual coaching sessions and leads online group workshops internationally (USA, UK, Asia, Australia) for both women and men. Clayton has been empowering individuals and couples from around the world to find harmony and authenticity in their relationships. With a background in Professional Coaching and Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Clayton takes a holistic approach to carefully reconstructing what is truly possible for his clients. Through his work he has revitalized relationships, brought together lost loves, and witnessed clients find their soul mates. Clayton's content has been seen on Fox news magazine, Huffington post, the Goodmen project and he's even had an article featured on The View.View Author posts