If your partner ever says anything rude or disrespectful to you, tell them to write it down on a piece of paper and get in their car, drive and deliver it to their mother/daughter/son/father/grandmother/grandfather and then simply hand the note to them. Or mail it. If they can’t say it to one of their closest family members, and they don’t want another person to ever treat their family member that way, they shouldn’t be saying or doing, harmful things to you. Same goes for attacks of any form: spoken, mental or physical. People need to treat people how they’d want their loved ones to be treated.