Being a People-Pleaser: Why It’s Dangerous and How to Stop


Chances are, if you’re a people pleaser, at least one of these dangers stirred up some feelings. While the feelings can be uncomfortable, it’s important to recognize that the consequences of people-pleasing can break our spirit, weaken our physical self, and set us up for unhealthy interaction with others, none of which are included in the recipe for well-being.

So, what to do now?

Well, the next step would be to take a look at the behavior and determine whether it is serving you. If, for whatever reason, it’s not a behavior you’re ready to change, that is perfectly acceptable. You can always revisit it later if you wish. If, however, you decide you’d like to give change a try, it can be helpful to seek out a relationship coach or therapist who can help you examine the roots of the need to please, change the accompanying internal tapes, and explore new behaviors that will serve you better. No matter what step you decide to take next, aim to please yourself. You are worth it.