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I think truth filled quotes have a powerful way of conveying a message with an attitude which sometimes resonates, and that we feel literal chills. Here’s a list of powerful deep quotes on life. Don’t miss any one out!

These powerful deep quotes will not only inspire or motivate you, but some of them are a reality check for you and they will make you change your life!

Are you ready?

Below Are 34 Powerful Deep Quotes About Life

1. Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75. —Benjamin Franklin

2. To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people just exist. — Oscar Wilde

3. Two possibilities exist: Either we are alone in the universe or we are not. Both are equally terrifying. — Arthur C. Clark

4. Great spirits have often encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. — Albert Einstein

5. Of all sad words of mouth or pen, the saddest are these: it might have been. — John Greenleaf Whittier

6. I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks, but I do fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times. – Bruce Lee

7. And when you gaze long enough into the abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you. — Friedrich Nietzsche

8. Don’t let schooling interfere with your education – Mark Twain

9. You fight and win battles that others know nothing about. Remember this when you think you’re weak.

10. It is no measure of health to be well—adjusted to a profoundly sick society. — Jiddu Krisnamurti

11. Every man dies, but not every man truly lives. — William Wallace

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12. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always. – Robin Williams

13. Some cause happiness wherever they go, others whenever they go. ― Oscar Wilde

14. Have I not destroyed my enemy when I have made him into my friend? — Abraham Lincoln

15. To love is to recognize yourself in another. – Eckhart Tolle

16. Prejudices are rarely overcome by argument; not being founded in reason they cannot be destroyed by logic. — Tryon Edwards

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17. If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea. —Antoine de Saint—Exupery

18. They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety. — Benjamin Franklin

19. Only when the last tree has died and the last river has been poisoned and the last fish been caught will we realize we cannot eat money. — Cree Indian Proverb

20. And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair. –Kahlil Gibran

21. Try as much as possible to be wholly alive, with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell and when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough. – William Saroyan

22. When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life. ― John Lennon

23. “If you do the work you get rewarded. There are no shortcuts in life.”

24. As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world – that is the myth of the atomic age – as in being able to remake ourselves. ― Mahatma Gandhi

25. The best people possess a feeling for beauty, the courage to take risks, the discipline to tell the truth, the capacity for sacrifice. Ironically, their virtues make them vulnerable; they are often wounded, sometimes destroyed. — Ernest Hemingway

26. Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step. – Lao Tzu

27. Every gun that is made, every warship launched, every rocket fired, signifies in the final sense a theft from those who hunger and are not fed, those who are cold and are not clothed. ― Dwight D. Eisenhower

28. In a closed society where everybody’s guilty, the only crime is getting caught. In a world of thieves, the only final sin is stupidity. ― Hunter S. Thompson

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29. Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, said: “ Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

30. I see all this potential, and I see squandering. God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables; slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don’t need. We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War’s a spiritual war… our Great Depression is our lives. We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off ― Chuck Palahniuk

31. The most dangerous man, to any government, is the man who is able to think things out for himself, without regard to the prevailing superstitions and taboos. Almost invariably he comes to the conclusion that the government he lives under is dishonest, insane and intolerable, and so, if he is romantic, he tries to change it. And if he is not romantic personally, he is apt to spread discontent among those who are. ― HL Mencken

32. I would rather die of passion, than boredom.

33. A man may die, nations may rise and fall, but an idea lives on. — John F. Kennedy

34. Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.

So what do you think about these powerful deep quotes on life? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Self Development
Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

We live in a world where people’s negative emotions are more dominant then positive emotions. Where people use unkind and unloving words to talk to, and about, each other. We project back our insecurities, jealousy, hatred onto other people and create a negative environment. In turn this negativity makes us unproductive and lowers our spiritual vigor.

How do you deal with such negativity?

There are always alternative ways to deal with negativity than to return back the negativity.

Here are 10 ways to No Longer Take Things personally and live in peace and harmony.

1. It’s not about you, it’s about them.

But it is not what I am saying that is hurting you; it is that you have wounds that I touch by what I have said. You are hurting yourself. There is no way I can take this personally. ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

People are unconscious about their deepest fears, insecurities and they keep projecting their own darkness, ideas, deepest desires, inner conflicts and struggles onto those around them.

What people fail to realise is that the problem lies inside and not on the outside. But it is comparatively easier to reflect our unconscious desires onto others rather than looking them in the eyes and facing them. And that most of the things people say and do, have little, or nothing, to do with the people they are “describing”, but a lot to do with who they themselves are, and the internal struggles they are facing.

People’s words, ideas, thoughts, behaviours are influenced by their past experiences and their unconsciousness. Their words don’t describe the people they are “attacking”, nor do they reveal who others are. But rather they reveal the pain, the suffering, the darkness and the many wounds that are present within them.

It is always good to remember that human beings are generally constructive in nature and have no intentions of destroying others. How they treat you is most often the reflection of their unresolved inner conflicts.

2. Don’t give it too much attention.

Thoughts have power, creative power. And since there are no idle thoughts (for every thought you think creates a belief, belief that you will later on craft your reality on), the more you dwell on the negativity, the more it hampers your mental health.

It is crucial to not always focus on the negative words people speak about you. In contrast, try to imbibe the positive words your well-wishers shower on you. For words are very powerful tool to influence anyone, negative talks have the power to poison your heart, your mind, your body and your life.

People tend to be generous when sharing their nonsense, fear, and ignorance. And while they seem quite eager to feed you their negativity, please remember that sometimes the diet we need to be on is a spiritual and emotional one. Be cautious with what you feed your mind and soul. Fuel yourself with positivity and let that fuel propel you into positive action. ~ Steve Maraboli

3. Just be yourself.

Recognize that nobody knows you better than you do. So the ideas people hold about you are their personal attributions about you. It has no power to change what you are, however malicious it is. Never make other people’s opinions of you a priority over your own opinion about yourself.

Bernard Baruch said it best with these words: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

Keep in mind that is your duty to be true to yourself, to accept every flaw you have and provide yourself the love you deserve. If you have a path set for yourself, walk on it. Don’t wait for others to walk alongside. If certain people don’t agree with the way you live your life, that’s their problem, not yours.

4. What other people think of you is none of your business.

In The Tao Te Ching (500BC), a work many consider one of the wisest book ever written, there is a great line that goes like this: “Care about people’s approval and you will be their prisoner.” Once you care about what others think of you, and once you start seeking their approval and validation, taking every actions and words of others’ personally, you immediately become their slave; you become their prisoner.

You are a free individual – free to think, free to speak and free to chase your dreams. Don’t let anyone put you in that position.

Keep reminding yourself that what others do or say is none of your business. Rather it has a lot to say about who they are. Their negative words don’t spoil your image, it spoil theirs.

5. It’s not worth your time and energy.

How much time and energy are you willing to waste trying to understand why certain people don’t like us?

Do they like me? – Every time you ask yourself this question, do ask yourself another question in addition – Do I like myself?

Once you get an affirmative as an answer you are good to go.

We make a principle mistake when we focus on the negativity we receive from others instead of focusing on those who love and cherish us and instead of feeding our hearts and souls with the love and kindness we receive from these people; we choose to dwell upon why some people don’t like us.

By doing so we not only waste our precious time and energy, but we also poison our minds, bodies and souls, which by the way, it’s just not worth it.

6. People give what they have in their hearts to give.

I firmly believe that we all are born with an innate need to give – to offer to others around us that which we have in our hearts. Those people who are at peace and whose hearts are filled with love, kindness and compassion, spread love to everyone they come across.

They give joy, laughter, peace and happiness. While those people who are in distress, and whose hearts are wounded because of the many challenges, trials, abuse, trauma, hardships and painful experiences projects them onto the people they come across. At the moment that is all they have to offer to others. Our ability to realise this will help us be less harsh on people who we think intentionally spread negativity.

With that being said, “Can anyone be justified in responding with anger to a brother’s plea for help? No response can be appropriate except the willingness to give it to him, for this and only this is what he is asking for. Offer him anything else, and you are assuming the right to attack his reality by interpreting it as you see fit. Perhaps the danger of this to your own mind is not yet fully apparent. If you believe that an appeal for help is something else you will react to something else. Your response will therefore be inappropriate to reality as it is, but not to your perception of it.” ~ ACIM

7. Never confuse the behaviour with the person.

We all know that children are born pure and innocent, with a blank slate, which slowly fills with different colours and often it is pitch black.

As they grow they start experiencing life through the filters of societal beliefs and their innocence starts to fade. And if in the beginning they looked at life and everyone around through the lens of innocence, through trails they faced in life, they finally realise that the world doesn’t work in such simple ways.

With age, their innocence is replaced by fear and insecurities – fear that “forces” them to act in unkind, inhuman, selfish and unloving ways, creating a lot of pain and suffering for themselves and for those around them.

Don’t take it personally. Don’t make their pain your pain. Don’t make their darkness your darkness. Help them if you can, by giving them your love, compassion and understanding, and by helping them understand that love is their true nature, while fear is nothing but an illusion. And if that’s something you can’t do, make sure you don’t feed their pain by reacting in unkind and unloving way, and by confusing the behaviour with the person, for that would only create more suffering into their lives, and into your own life.

8. Guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

No matter what anyone might say to you, and about you, and no matter how much negativity people might try to bring into your life through their actions and behaviors, never allow the pain that might be created to make you hate.

Never allow resentment to pour through your system, continuing to poison your heart long after you have been “bitten by the snake.” Keep your heart pure, free from negativity, hate and resentment. For everything you do flows from your heart.

9. Let Love forgive.

Fear condemns and love forgives. Forgiveness thus undoes what fear has produced. ~ ACIM

When I was a little kid, whenever me and my siblings would argue or get into a fight, at the end of it all, I would often run to my mom and complain about the mean things my siblings said or did to me. And my mom would always tell me the same thing: “If you are the bigger you will forgive and let go.”

Even though most of us believe that forgiveness is an act of weakness, the truth of the matter is that forgiveness is an act of strength not of weakness. You don’t forgive because you are weak but because you are strong enough to realize that only by giving up on resentment you will be happy.

The bigger person always forgives. Not necessarily because they think that the other person deserves it, but because they know that they themselves do. Because they know that forgives cleanses the mind and purifies the hearts of all the negativity that might have gotten into our system because of all the hurtful things that might have been said and done.

Keeping our hearts open and allowing life’s many gifts to shower us and to continue to make us feel nourished, loved, cared for and appreciated.

10. Set peace of mind as your highest goal.

Turn your back to those things that aren’t meant to bring you peace, joy and happiness into your life, and constantly focus onto those things that fill your heart with love. Set peace of mind as your highest goal in life and let nothing and no one interfere with that.

Let nothing and no one disturb your inner peace. Whenever you are faced with a difficult person or situation, ask yourself: “How can I handle this situation in a way that will not disturb my inner peace?” And make sure you only act in ways that will help you maintain a state of inner peace and tranquility.

Why do you think it’s so challenging for people not to take things personally, constantly chasing after people’s approval and validation? You can share your insights in the comment section below.

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Romantic Relationship
“Why Falling In Love Online Does not Count?

Been there, done that – and I am still wondering. Not that I am not sure about it, but when I do read a lot of argument against it, I question myself – Is this a story made inside my head – or does this have to do anything with REALITY too. Am I the single one odd here. Or do I have people like me around? The question here is – falling in love with someone you have never known earlier – via online interaction. I do personally feel it’s possible but yes – it might not every time be possible, or safe and sound.

There’s this movie PERFECT STRANGER, which had something very nice to say –

The Internet – It’s a world where you *think* actions have no consequence, where guilt is cloaked by anonymity, where there are no fingerprints. An invisible universe filled with strangers interconnected online and disconnected in life. It will steal your secrets, corrupt your dreams, and co-opt your identity. Because in this world, where you can be anything you want, any *one* you want, you just might lose sight of who you are.

While I was googling around – came across many such articles – talking all blah blah blah. I couldn’t really agree to any. And here is this one. Though it doesn’t support my idea (better-said experience ). But it does put light on a lot of things – that are ignored but very true. If you feel, you are falling for someone – as I did, maybe this article will help you cross-question your feelings.
Hope you find it useful too.
Well, we are indeed into an online relationship – Aren’t we?

Why Falling In Love Online Doesn’t Count

You cannot fall in love (strictly) online. Period. End of story. Full stop. True Love doesn’t happen like that.

I’m sure there’s a study out there somewhere (and if I wasn’t feeling like death as I write this—flu are fun!—I’d take the time to Google it for you gals) that says that in order for a true connection to take hold, humans need to be physically close to one another in order develop a love bond. It’s a physical consummation of the virtual vibe you’ve got going if you will. Not in a medieval marriage-sex kinda way, but psychical chemistry match to substantiate and confirm any emotional/mental connection you’ve developed while typing and texting.

Sure, you’ll sit there and tell me, “The thumbs don’t lie! I’ve never felt a connection so strong!” Yeah. Well. You’ve never felt a connection like this at all, because you haven’t truly experienced anything. You’ve just thought about it. Imagined what it would feel like. Typed it and expressed it verbally. Slept on it. Then got up and re-imagined it all over again via Twitter, Facebook, and G chat.

But if you haven’t actually met your mentally stimulating man, you literally have no clue how a real relationship could develop. No. Clue.

You don’t know how your hand will fit in his. You have no idea how his lips will land on yours. Will the conversation flow? Or will it falter? Is he as physically affectionate as he is verbally affectionate? And is that what you want? You won’t know his idiosyncrasies and whether they will drive you batty or get you hot ‘n’ bothered.

And you CERTAINLY are in the dark about how you two fair between the sheets.

If you don’t believe me, spend 30 minutes of your life watching an episode of MTV’s Catfish.

And if that didn’t do it for you, here’s me getting real for a minute: This relationship? It’s synthetic. You created these feelings out of 0’s and 1’s. You created an emotional attachment to an idea—not a real person—and you filled in feelings where your mind-body-spirit chemistry would normally pick up and help out. Said emotions will seem perfect and super-real as FACK (hint: since you created them based on a fantasy, they are ideal), but don’t drink the Kool-Aid, sister. They are most certainly not the real-life real deal. So, step away from the keyboard. Put down the Snapchat and Kik and schedule a coffee date for crap’s sake. Because, really, why are you hiding behind the screen? What do you fear most about meeting your information-highway hottie? Guess it’s time to power down , and find out.

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Now is everything. Our Now defines all we have for future too. Think about it
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“The Impulse”

to want to put out your hand and want someone to be there at the end of your reach.

“I understand the Impulse. The impulse to want to put out your hand and want someone to be there at the end of your reach. To want someone to be close to. To want to kiss or touch, even if it’s wrong. The point is, you can’t control these feelings. Even if they are wrong, they are there.”
-thelovewhisperer

All you want then is someone to be there, to listen to you. In most cases you aren’t looking for a reply or an opinion too… It’s just this loneliness which is causing the Impulse. There’s nothing wrong in the want, but the consequences could be worser. A moment of a feeling of acceptance can never out weigh the guilt of it. Learn to give better company to self, learn to overcome it.

Your thoughts on this ?
Romantic Relationship

It happens and it really stinks. You’ve been married for years and suddenly you find yourself attracted to somebody else. Maybe he or she works in your office; maybe you even met them at church.

A long conversation turned into a test-flirt that got rewarded and then the touch of a hand and pretty soon you’re talking about how to navigate some pretty serious deception. Maybe you never thought it would go this far or you planned on stopping it before it reached this point but … you didn’t and now you’re cheating on your spouse.

Feelings begin to take hold based on a host of reasons, and some of them are purely biological. Some feelings are as light as the common cold, some as serious as a fatal disease. The problem is, the longer you follow the feeling the more the brain becomes awash with an “insane” logic that seems to make sense. Many feel like their brain has been awakened and their spirit revived, yet while bearing the tsunamis of guilt and shame.

Developing attraction or romantic feelings for someone other than your spouse happens in almost every relationship. Hopefully, it’s rare, but it’s normal. Pursuing those feelings, however, is harmful and incredibly destructive to people you care about. The irony is that while trying to bring love to that new person, you actually bring them harm. The pursuit involves hiding, manipulation, and lying; the very things you will later despise in yourself and distrust in the other.

If you have children, you’re not present because you’re spending every possible moment with the affair partner or obsessing about the next time you can. And then there are the 5 to 6 years of living hell you go through after you’re found out, even if you don’t get divorced. You may not have gotten into it on purpose but that is how you get out of it; on purpose.

When we begin to develop feelings for somebody else, it’s a great indicator some serious attention needs to be paid to our marriage. If you’ve not acted on anything, shut the inappropriate relationship down, and be intentional about finding the spark in your marriage again. If this sounds extreme, imagine your spouse’s response if they knew what was going on.

If you’re already having an affair, you probably feel terrible but are having trouble stopping and have no idea what to do. We know this is extremely painful and want you to know some things you can do:

1. First of all come to terms with the fact this is going to be difficult and it’s going to hurt, but there will be life again.

2. Open up with God and own everything that you’ve done. When I confess without excuses I begin to feel God’s mercy.

3. To walk away from an affair you need to know something you are walking toward; something that is more important to you than that which you are afraid of losing in yourself when you leave. For instance, if you felt you could only be your “real self” with your affair partner, walk through the fear of doing that with your spouse now. Yes, it may shake things up but not any worse than having an affair.

4. Talk to a counselor, a trusted pastor, or a real friend and ask for help now. This will make an immense difference and you will feel relief. A trustworthy person can help you do what you probably won’t do alone.

5. My guess is you have stopped being honest with your spouse about what’s not working in your relationship and you fear the conflict, or the silence if you are. Consequently, you have taken your real self and real needs out of the marriage and that’s a problem. This is where a counselor can create the safety to help you be honest and to hear each other.

6. If you don’t learn how you are contributing to the problem, you will repeat it. Each of us brings our own wounds to the marriage that impacts are much more than we can imagine. Invite your spouse to tell you how you contribute to their hurt and loneliness and then listen. It is amazing how people can drop their walls when they feel heard.

7. Stop deceiving yourself and others. When we are in the middle of deception, we have usually told so many lies that we don’t know how to get back to the truth. The beginning of honesty with others is to first be honest with ourselves.

8. Let the pain that you feel in the absence of the affair partner call you to take a step into the mystery of God’s very real and inexhaustible love. This is not just religious babble. A short book by Henri Nouwen called The Inner Voice of Love is very helpful with this.

9. Tell your spouse the truth. I know this brings you panic because you have no idea how it will turn out. A counselor or experienced pastor is invaluable to help with this.

10. Stay humble and repent through the backlash. Defending yourself or blaming only fuels more anger and increases the chance that you’ll actually believe your defense.

The only thing that can make this situation worse is to heap on more deception. The truth just needs to come out and be dealt with. This is going to cost you and those you love a great deal, but dealing with it now and being honest will be the first step in reestablishing broken trust. Getting caught is going to make it much, much worse. If you walk through this honestly and humbly, you will uncover the meaning of integrity and will find you like yourself better, as will others.
Romantic Relationship
What are the signs that you don’t love this person?

Love is an incredibly complex emotion. It makes you feel attracted to a number of situations that you are not at all familiar to. It is not that the otherworldly matters of love makes things complex but because it forms a situation in our minds. We think and feel about the situation and moments that are incredibly complex and while there is nothing wrong with it, it actually feels like you are just in the idea of being in love.

1. You are two different persons at two different times

It’s not loving, but a need just to fill the “lonely Void”.
You go by the idea of “Something is better than nothing”
You think you need ‘someone” even when he’s not the right fit.

2. You want to be with him even when you want him to change a few things

You haven’t accepted him yet. You see his flaws, and constantly want to change him.
You do not love him, but just the idea of what he could be”

3. You search for standards of love in others

Other couples make you feel jealous. When you look at them, you wonder if you two can be as happy as them.

4. There is no sign of having a future with him

Your life goals are all about you. You are not in a mood to settle down anytime sooner. Settling down with this guy has never crossed your mind and every time someone talks about it, you simply choose to change the topic. For now, you like his presence but even you are unsure about what to do in the future.

5. You don’t really love him but you are compromising for the love they give you

You want to believe that you are in love but deep inside you know that there is a lot of superficiality in your love. You can’t let him go but you can’t make it real at the same time.

6. You still live in the past when present has changed a lot

We change, accept it or not, we all do. And there’s no blaming or cribbing if he might have changed too.
But somehow you haven’t moved on with this change’ and are still in love with the glorious memories. It is not Him now – But an Idea of Him that you are in love with.

You cannot really be sure of anything, but you still choose to believe in the less likely version of reality because it’s more appealing.

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Zodiac Signs N Secrets

What are your biggest anxiety triggers? Do you know why certain things stress you out? The zodiac anxiety triggers might get you the answer!

Feeling stressed and anxious once in a while is natural, but if it is happening consistently, then you need to know what triggers your stress and anxiety.

We all have our stress triggers, which set us off into panic. Even though anxiety and stress are a part and parcel of life, being in a constant anxious state is not.

The best way to deal with your biggest anxiety triggers is to know where they are coming from so that you can heal them.

An interesting and quite effective approach to this could be looking at the stress and anxiety triggers of each zodiac sign and identifying your stress and anxiety triggers according to astrology!

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Your Biggest Anxiety Triggers Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Here’re the stress and anxiety triggers of zodiac signs and how can they deal with them:

1. Aries (March 21 – April 19)

You count on your dynamic Ram energy to get you through the day and you feel vulnerable when it runs out.

Your biggest anxiety triggers are sickness, tiredness, and laziness. When you’re down or ill, you feel overwhelmed and stressed about all the tasks you can’t accomplish.

You’re used to playing Superman or Superwoman, and avoid taking time off as you think that would make you a lazy slug.

But you should religiously set aside at least one full day a week to play or do nothing. Life will continue without you and you will keep burnouts at bay.

Related: Aries Personality: 15 Things You Need To Know About The Ram Sign

2. Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

More than anything else, Taurus, you want to be seen as competent. That’s why you take your time to do things right.

Your biggest anxiety triggers are failures, setbacks, and losing face. When a difficult task looms, you fear you won’t have enough time to do it properly and might mess it up.

Fall back on your infallible instincts and be secure in the knowledge that your true worth, dedication, honest effort, and sincerity will ultimately prevail.

Related: 10 Secrets About Taurus You Probably Know Nothing About

3. Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

You don’t suffer fools, Gemini. When the car in front of you pulls a bone-headed move in traffic, your stress-o-meter hits the roof. And, little things get to you – like words being mispronounced or misspelled.

Your biggest anxiety triggers are putting up with stupidity and dealing with lousy people. You’re apt to blow a gasket dealing with slow or dense people, where you feel like you’re talking to a wall.

You need regular activities that calm your overactive mind, like yoga or throwing pots in a ceramics class.

Related: 10 Personality Traits Of The Misunderstood Gemini

4. Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

You put up a front that makes you seem tougher than you really are, so others don’t realize how deeply you get affected by criticism, angry outbursts, or being ignored.

Your biggest anxiety triggers are feeling emotionally unsafe and being insecure in relationship dynamics.

You often swallow your feelings, but it’s vital to let people know what you need instead of retreating into your shell and nursing a stress-related ulcer. Breathe into your belly: your true security lies there.

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5. Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Any situation where you’re not in control and don’t know what to do is your stress trigger, Leo. A computer breakdown can freak you out in no time. Not being able to find something you’ve lost could also fry your circuits.

Basically, your biggest anxiety triggers are losing control and not knowing what could happen. Even falling in love can fill you with raging hormones and vulnerabilities that turn your kingly or queenly self into an insecure child.

Let go and try to accept things as they are; you’ll be much happier.

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6. Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Just the thought of attempting something new and unfamiliar can tie you in knots, but once you’re actually doing it, you’re fine.

Your biggest anxiety triggers are expectations and the fear of not living up to them, even when most of these expectations are set by no one else, but you.

You think too much, Virgo – which accounts for your greatest stress. Making lists will help. You also stress when someone you love is struggling or falling behind.

Rather than trying to fix things for others, utilize your skills to work toward a positive outcome – then trust that all will turn out well.

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7. Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Not being treated fairly is very stressful for you, Libra. Your biggest anxiety triggers are conflicts, arguments, and confrontations. You’ll spend hours weighing the pros and cons of confronting someone – so much so, you can even make yourself sick!

Rather than seething in silence or overreacting defensively, respond calmly at the moment. Keep it short and sweet and curb the long-winded speeches or accusations.

You’ll get better results once people know where you stand. An uncluttered environment will also keep you serene.

Related: 10 Personality Traits Of Libra, The Idealistic Air Sign

8. Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Others don’t realize how sensitive you are, Scorpio, because you hide it well. Yours is a quiet strength – so your biggest anxiety triggers are loud yelling, noise, disturbances, and distractions.

You also feel tense and nervous when you don’t get enough privacy. You need peace of mind to accomplish your goals and upheavals in your environment get you triggered.

Be sure people know your needs and boundaries so you can negotiate what works for all. Keeping your guard up all the time is not a smart move for you.

Related: 10 Personality Traits Of Scorpio, The Ambitious Water Sign

9. Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

You’re all about movement, Sagittarius, so sitting in traffic is your own personal hell, and what triggers your anxiety and stress. You’re also not big on formal events or business meetings where you have to act properly and “behave” according to corporate culture.

Situations that rein you in, like a partner pressuring you for a commitment or a boss demanding you punch in at a time clock, can be your biggest anxiety triggers.

Make sure you get enough time outdoors to feed your restless spirit so you won’t feel so constrained.

Related: 10 Personality Traits Of Sagittarius, The Fiery Archer Sign

10. Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

You take things too seriously and often miss the moon while counting stars. This often leads to your biggest anxiety triggers; guilt, ruminations, and obsessive thinking.

You can end up going over “what if”s or “only if“s in a never-ending loop, till you’re all lathered up, asking questions that can’t be answered or longing for what you can’t have.

The remedy is to take it easy and live in the moment, the only place where joy can be found. And ensure you have plenty of time to relax after a hectic day.

Related: 10 Personality Traits Of Capricorn, The Disciplined Soul

11. Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Though “live and let live” is your motto, Aquarius, you really like to have your way. You get frustrated when you can’t justify doing what you want without a good reason. Nor can you abide by people who try to bend your will to theirs.

Your biggest anxiety triggers are not living your life on your own terms and losing out on exciting things that are happening around you.

Already high-strung, you become stressed by the pressures of time and often feel there’s not enough of it. Yet ironically, by slowing down and being more flexible, you’ll actually get more done and feel more relaxed.

Related: 10 Personality Traits Of Aquarius, The Progressive Air Sign

12. Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

You’re a very private person, Pisces, so public speaking or other situations in which you feel exposed can be stressful. Subtlety is your strong suit; so your biggest anxiety triggers are feeling unnerved by loud music and crass people.

And, you get nervous or even sick because you don’t know how to shield yourself from invasions. Adopt the attitude “This too shall pass,” and be sure you’re getting plenty of time alone to process your emotions and clear your slate.

Related: 10 Personality Traits Of Pisces, The Gentle Water Sign

We hope you could discover what triggers your anxiety based on your zodiac sign. Let us know your views on stress and anxiety triggers by commenting down below!

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Attachment Romantic Relationship

You need to release attachments to past relationships for a happy life in the future.

It’s pretty much a given that we carry baggage with us from our past relationships.

Those attachments that we felt are hard to let go, and after the relationship is done, attachments turn into other, less ideal emotions. So what can we do to release these old attachments?

1. Be willing.

It’s the first step in fixing any problem, be willing to fix the problem. If you are fresh out of a relationship, it may not truly be time to let go of your attachments.

It’s important to feel all the feelings when a relationship ends. Don’t rush it. But if time has passed and you know you’re ready, say it out loud. “I’m ready to let go.

2. Write it all down.

There’s something therapeutic about keeping a journal and writing how you feel in it. It’s like it takes the energy from those negative emotions and puts it on the page.

Not only that, but writing it all out helps you process and figure out how you really feel about things too.

3. Find the good in it all.

Every relationship we experience in our lives, be it platonic or romantic, can teach us important life lessons. It doesn’t matter how hurt you may be, your previous relationships have a lot to teach you if you’re willing to find the positive in it.

4. Be compassionate.

When you’re hurt, it’s easy to turn that hurt on the rest of the world. Instead, act with compassion. Show kindness to everything. Spend some time volunteering. Get to know some new people. Create positivity in the world.

Read How To Change Your Attachment Style

5. Find your version of happiness.

Society tells us how to be happy, but that doesn’t work for everyone. Find what’s needed for you to be happy. Figure out what things you like to do and do them. Learn to be happy on your own. Happiness comes from within, not from external sources.

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Family Self Development

family sacrifice

“It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.” ~ Oriah Mountain Dreamer, The invitation

There is something about family that makes us behave in strange ways. Something about family that makes us think that it’s okay to betray our own Soul just so that we won’t disappoint them. And that it’s okay to neglect our own path, our own happiness and our own purpose in life for their happiness.

Ever since I came back to Romania to write my book, I gave all of me to my family. Because I assumed that maybe one of the many reasons why life needed me to be back home was so that I would “sprinkle some fairy dust” on them, I immersed myself in this “family world” and I did my best to be a good daughter, a good sister, a good aunt, a good niece, and so on. And before I knew it, I lost my sense of self. I was no longer Luminita, this being who had no interest in labeling herself as a “daughter”, “sister”, “aunt”, “Romanian citizen”, etc., and no interest in placing herself in all kind of “boxes” and then desperately trying to act according to the instructions that were written on those” boxes”, but rather someone who was more concerned with not disappointing her family than she was with being true to herself.

When you start doing things that aren’t in alignment with who you truly are, saying “yes” when deep down inside you know you should say “no” just because you don’t want to disappoint those around you, because if you do, you “risk losing their love and affection”, and when you start acting as if other people’s happiness is more important than your own, you can’t help but lose yourself. You can’t help but forget who you are, what you stand for, and what truly matters for your heart and Soul.

This is something that happens to a lot of people. Because of the many things our families, and people in general, expect from us, and because of the many ideas we have in our heads about how we should behave in our families based on the role we play – mother, daughter, father, husband, wife, etc., in a very subtle way we slowly but surely start to lose our sense of self. We forget about what we want, what we need, and who we are underneath it all, and we drift away. Consciously or unconsciously, we start behaving in ways that no longer feel truthful and authentic to us, giving up on ourselves, our dreams, needs, and desires, and becoming more of whatever the world expects us to be and less of who we truly are.

“When you give to others to the degree that you sacrifice yourself, you make the other person a thief.” ~ Iyanla Vanzant, paraphrasing A Course in Miracles

We all want to feel that we belong, that we are approved and accepted by our family and everyone around us. And even though it’s beautiful to have all of these things, it’s even more beautiful to be loved for who we truly are. It’s even more beautiful to be loved for always being honest with ourselves and those we love, for standing our ground, and for always living in alignment with who we truly are.

You might think that trying to please your family and constantly making their needs more important then your own is a noble thing to do, but if in this process of you trying to make them happy you forget how to be happy yourself than there’s nothing noble about that. What’s so noble about betraying your own Soul just so that you can please everyone around you? What’s noble about making other people’s lives and happiness more important than your own? What’s noble about betraying your own Soul just s that you won’t “disappoint” those around you?

“For far too long we have been seduced into walking a path that did not lead us to ourselves. For far too long we have said yes when we wanted to say no. And for far too long we have said no when we desperately wanted to say yes. . . . When we don’t listen to our intuition, we abandon our souls. And we abandon our souls because we are afraid if we don’t, others will abandon us.” ~ Terry Tempest Williams

There is a path each and every one of us needs to walk upon. A journey to full healing and self-discovery we all need to take, and even though the happiness of our parents, our brothers and sisters, our partners, our children, uncles, and cousins matters a great deal, it shouldn’t matter more than our own happiness. It shouldn’t matter more than our own journey, our own path and our own purpose in life.

“You are the source of all purity and impurity. No one purifies another. Never neglect your path for another’s, however great his need. Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart to give yourself to it.” ~ Gautama Buddha, The Dhammapada: The Sayings of the Buddha

Shake things a little bit. Have the courage to “disappoint” your family to be true to yourself. Choose short term discomfort over long term resentment. Make the relationship you have with your Soul, your path, and your purpose in life the most important relationship in your life. Seek to always live your life from a place of truth and integrity. Because only by taking good care of yourself and by making yourself truly happy, can you make those you love happy as well.

“If you are happy, you can give happiness. If you don’t love yourself and if you are unhappy with yourself, you can’t give anything else but that.” ~ Gisele Bundchen

If you want to be of service to those you love, to help and make their lives a lot more beautiful, happy, and meaningful, then choose to honor who you truly are. By making your happiness, health and well-being a priority, by having the courage to stand your ground and to live the kind of life you know deep down inside yourself that you should live, not only do you give your family permission to know the real you and to love you for who you truly are, but you are also inspiring them to be true to themselves and to live their lives from a place of truth and integrity.

Life is too short to be anything but happy. Too short to live a life that is not yours to live and walk on a path that is not yours to walk upon. So dare to be yourself fully. Do the things that feel right in your heart for you. Never betray your Soul just so you can please your family, or anyone else, because if you do, no matter how much love you will receive from these people, you will never feel loved enough. You will never have peace of mind. For how can you be at peace knowing that you aren’t loved for who you truly are, but for something you pretend to be. How can you be at peace knowing that you have gained the world but lost your own Soul?

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