How to Release Attachments to Past Relationships

 August 10, 2015

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It’s pretty much a given that we carry baggage with us from our past relationships.

Those attachments that we felt are hard to let go, and after the relationship is done, attachments turn into other, less ideal emotions. So what can we do to release these old attachments?

Be willing.

It’s the first step in fixing any problem, be willing to fix the problem. If you are fresh out of a relationship, it may not truly be time to let go of your attachments.

It’s important to feel all the feelings when a relationship ends. Don’t rush it. But if time has passed and you know you’re ready, say it out loud. “I’m ready to let go.

 

Write it all down.

There’s something therapeutic about keeping a journal and writing how you feel in it. It’s like it takes the energy from those negative emotions and puts it on the page.

Not only that, but writing it all out helps you process and figure out how you really feel about things too.

 

Find the good in it all.

Every relationship we experience in our lives, be it platonic or romantic, can teach us important life lessons. It doesn’t matter how hurt you may be, your previous relationships have a lot to teach you if you’re willing to find the positive in it.

 

Be compassionate.

When you’re hurt, it’s easy to turn that hurt on the rest of the world. Instead, act with compassion. Show kindness to everything. Spend some time volunteering. Get to know some new people. Create positivity in the world.

 

Find your version of happiness.

Society tells us how to be happy, but that doesn’t work for everyone. Find what’s needed for you to be happy. Figure out what things you like to do and do them. Learn to be happy on your own. Happiness comes from within, not from external sources.

 

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6 comments on “How to Release Attachments to Past Relationships

  1. I often find myself crying over what happened to me. how I was undermined, made to feel less of myself, like I'm too demanding, not appreciating and don't know what I want. All I ever asked for was that, I be appreciated, showen Love, cared for and do things which makes me happy and puts a smile on my face and to always talk whenever we have a challenge infront of us but it was never like that. Instead, I received harsh words, was made to realise that, talking about your ex with reference to our relationship was not an issue and whatever issue I had, I was blowing things out of proportion and was told that, people are suffering and I'm worried about things which don't matter. somehow I feel, whats the purpose of being in a relationship? isn't it that, we share what makes both of us happy and whatever challenge we face, we face it together and we becareful with what we say to the ones we love. I'm left with Pain and scars of wonder on whether, was everything I did for nothing in the relationship? did I truly ask for the impossible? how does one get happy when what makes them happy is less of a priority from their partner……I'm still wondering

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