The Truth About People Who Post Their Relationships Online

Truth About People Post Relationships Online

When you post about your relationship online, it is not a negative thing by any means; but when people do it all the time, then that is a cause for concern. When you see someone uploading everything about their relationship online, know that it might seem adorable and romantic on the surface, but there are many sad things that are going on outside of their social media profiles.

We’ve all got that friend. You know the one I’m talking about. She writes love notes to her boyfriend and posts them on Facebook for everyone to see. And she posts WAY too many lovey-dovey couple-selfies, from every possible angle.

And you think, REALLY? You’re not in 8th grade making out in front of your locker anymore. Grow up!

But her posts do make you wonder if your life measures up.

Here are two important things to remember:

  • Comparison is the root of all unhappiness.
  • Studies show your friend might not be nearly as happy as she appears.

Here’s why:

People who are insecure about how their partners feel about them post more often about their relationships. Your friend may need external validation to feel like her partner cares about her.

People with anxious attachment styles tend to post about their relationships more often – perhaps to get reassurance. Your friend might have an anxious attachment style and worry that her partner doesn’t love her enough.

Research from Albright College shows that people whose self-esteem is contingent upon their relationships tend to post more often (and even brag about their relationship on social media). Maybe your friend needs her relationship to appear okay publicly in order for her to feel okay about herself.

Researches at Albright College also found that people high in Neuroticism tend to post more often to show off their relationships (and also monitor their partners online). Maybe your friend is anxious, jealous, worried, angry, fearful, frustrated, envious, guilty, depressed, or lonely.

Posting happy times with your partner (and excluding the bad times) can make you feel better about your relationship. Maybe your friend is only showing the happy times online, and leaving out all the bad stuff she doesn’t want anyone to know about.

Related: Why Frequent Social Media Sharing by Couples Indicates Lack of Depth In Relationships

Happy couples are too busy having fun together to remember to take photos. Maybe your friend isn’t engaged and having fun with her partner.

Genuinely happy couples don’t really care what anyone else thinks. Maybe your friend wants everyone to think she’s happy when she’s not.

Research shows that people who use social media less are happier than those who use it more often. Maybe your friend isn’t happy in general.

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The Truth About People Who Post Their Relationship Online

So the next time your friend posts multiple lovey-dovey couple selfies or public declarations of undying love for her beau, remember…

She might be happy and in love.

Or she might be unhappy, insecure, anxious, neurotic, have low self-esteem, cares too much what others think or be unhappy in general.

Instead of comparing your life to her social media newsfeed, why not reach out and see how she’s doing? Be a good friend – she might need you right now.

And remember, the grass isn’t always greener. Stop comparing yourself to what you see others posting online. I suggest you water your own grass and appreciate all the blessings in your life.

In fact, you might want to consider turning off your computer, phone, and tablet for a while, or all together. Studies show you’ll be a lot happier if you do!

Michelle Jacoby is an award-winning matchmaker and dating coach. To discover the mistakes that will kill your chances of finding love, download Michelle’s FREE ebook “The 12 Mistakes That Will Kill Your Chances Of Finding Mr. Right”.  

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2 thoughts on “The Truth About People Who Post Their Relationships Online”

  1. Avatar of Darla Friedt

    I do believe there is some validity here. Love and intimacy are best kept private. Of course people post milestones in a relationship like engagements, marriage etc. that they to share that with others. I do wonder why people who are truly living in love would freezeframe special moments to get a pic to post..tells me it’s more about what the world sees than what they are truly feeling. Keep your private relationship private. True love doesn’t need likes or attention.

  2. Avatar of Colin Chamberlain

    It’s fine for couples to express their love for each other as much but sometimes it’s so clear that their public declarations are a cover up for the real reality of their relationship.

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