Are you tired of trying to fit into social norms? Do you feel a higher calling that is asking you to walk your own path and find your true self? Then you need to stop seeking social interactions and start getting comfortable with being yourself. You don’t need to live your life like everyone else does. Choose your path and set out on your own adventure. Embrace being a lone wolf and the freedom you experience will be priceless.
If there is any advice I would universally give to every person, regardless of who they are, it is this: walk your own path.
Walk your own damn path.
Don’t walk someone else’s path.
Don’t walk the path your parents predestined for you just because you feel emotionally indebted to them.
Don’t walk a path that appears to be yours, but it is actually society’s fabricated ideal of who you ‘should’ be.
Don’t walk a path just because you fell into it and it’s “good enough.”
Don’t walk a path that you feel a sense of enslaved duty towards because it’s what you “need to be” doing according to dominant socio-cultural standards.
Walk your own path. That means CHOOSING your own path in a very conscious way.
What is a Lone Wolf?
A lone wolf is typically defined as a person (or animal) who prefers to spend time alone rather than being in a group.
However, here lone wolf refers to a person who has listened to their calling and has left behind their old life, thus rendering them alone or alienated from others.
We all possess an inner wolf that thirsts for freedom, truth, and authenticity. If we seek to live a meaningful life, if we want to fulfill our destiny, it’s our job to listen to that inner wolf and embrace our sacred wild nature.
Why Most People Are Terrified of Walking Their Own Path
Although choosing your own path may initially sound very empowering, there’s a reason why most people prefer to follow the herd.
1. Firstly, walking your own path means that you might be REJECTED by others.
You might be gossiped about, thought of in disparaging ways (e.g. as a “kook,” “oddball,” “idiot”), and outright alienated or estranged from other people. Sometimes those people who reject you are those closest to you. And what could be more painful than losing a family member, friend or even partner?
As a species, we are biologically programmed to seek approval because acceptance equals survival. Inevitably, doing anything that may cause us to be rejected sets off those deep, primal alarm bells and raises the hairs on the back of our necks. I would go so far as saying that walking your own path guarantees that at some point someone will look down on you and say, “what on earth are you doing, you imbecile?”
2. The second reason why most people avoid walking their own paths is that it’s a hell of a lotta work.
No one is out there giving you a map, a set of rules, or instructions that tell you what to do. YOU have to be responsible for figuring it all out from scratch. It kind of feels like stumbling through the dark in a room full of sharp objects. You will make mistakes. You will fall flat and land smack bang on your face.
You will feel embarrassed, overwhelmed, and a lot of other uncomfortable emotions that come with doing something completely radical. And on a mental and emotional level, most people see that. Most people understand, on some superficial level, the consequences and therefore prefer the cozy, comfortable, and bland mediocrity of society-prescribed living.
3. The third reason why most people avoid walking their own paths is that it’s “too much” RESPONSIBILITY.
When you take your path into your own hands, YOU are responsible. There’s no one to blame, point the finger at, whine about or feel victimized by.
You are the worker, boss, innovator, and creator all-in-one. Instead of someone else holding all the cards, you hold all the cards, and it is ultimately your problem if you wind up feeling shitty with what you do. Most people can’t handle that.
Most people like the comfy confines of their cages because it makes them feel justified about feeling like a “poor little” victim of life. Instead of taking self-responsibility, it’s much easier to dump the burden onto someone else’s shoulders and feel self-righteously empowered through blame.