22 Stages of Relationship Between An Empath and A Narcissist

 December 02, 2016

22 Stages of Relationship Between An Empath and A Narcissist

 

10   The narcissist is an attention seeker. They get satisfaction when people fuss around them. Their needs can never be met, they can never be satisfied. They may move to other partners, open a new business, travel around the world, get involved in new creative pursuits, and so on and so forth, but they will never be happy. The empath isn’t aware of this fact.

 

11   When the empath finally bursts out something like “My feelings also matter,” the narcissist is quick to call the empath “crazy”. They call them over-dramatic and their concerns unfounded. This kind of dismissive behavior is the tactics used by them to gain control over the empath’s mind.

 

12  The empath gets confused. Why they have meted out such behavior, is beyond their understanding. They start blaming themselves and wonder if they are at all worthy of being loved by anyone at all.

 

13  At this point, the empath is not able to understand that they are just being manipulated. Their partner has bent everything around them to create a twisted view of the circumstances. There can be anything around them to let them know the truth that they are the one who is “right” and it’s their partner who is tremendously “wrong” and wicked.

 

14  The empath will try to communicate with the narcissist in all truthfulness. The narcissist will, however, justify their behavior and pass the blame.

 

15  It is normal to feel lost, confused and hurt. But despite all the heart-break, the empath will need to be calm and do some self-evaluation to figure out how they became so defenseless. This is how they will start transforming.

 

16  The empath will know that they are by nature healers. They have the inner strength to help others in the right ways, sometimes as a duty and sometimes when life brings them to such situations.

 

17  The empath has to realize the bitter truth that not everyone deserves their love, care, and affection. Not everyone who seems distressed and unhappy is revealing their true self. There are some people who have sinister motives and have a very different outlook towards relationships and people than they do. Not everyone they fall in love with can be trusted so quickly.

 

18  In this situation, the empath must realize that they too are in a very bad situation something of which the narcissist in their life always spoke of. But, in their case, it would be different. They would make positive efforts and heal themselves. The narcissist will not.

 

19  For empath this will be a painful awakening. They will learn from the experience to move ahead.

 

20  The narcissist will continue as if nothing happened and they are completely innocent. They won’t remember for a moment that someone loved them so deeply and intensely. They won’t remember the powerful bond they once had with someone and just move on to find it somewhere else. A time will come when they will know they can neither connect with themselves nor with other people.

70 comments on “22 Stages of Relationship Between An Empath and A Narcissist

  1. Very accurate article .. They are one of the worst types of personalities , and unfortunately America is filled with them . However , + note is without the Narcissist the Empath wouldn’t understand its own self worth and value . They do serve a purpose , but just do NOT let the damage get to deep. They are not mentally stable individuals , who live in alternative realities. This stems from a lack of Self love from the parents or not marrying for love , in which their children become a false extension of themselves.

  2. I have to say, this article is pretty darn accurate. I am so thankful to be out of that horrible relationship and have moved on to a very healthy one. I wish all those who have been through this experience, the time to heal yourself and not to let that happen again. Remember you are worth it!

  3. I am beyond overwhelmed at this moment…I feel so, so, so stupid. I have been married to oh most definitely a narcissist and the Father of Lies for 27&1/2 years now. And yes, I have only recently gained knowledge about Empath’s after meeting one who asked me if I was also an Empath…Wow, I had never imagined…I’ve been made to feel…and therefore felt that I was just plain out crazy. I have only recently been occasionally searching for information and the cruelty I’ve been experiencing from my husband lately is what provoked more interest. When I saw this article I thought “NO WAY!!!” I have actually been advising my husband recently that I believe him to be a Sociopath…hmmm…he truly hates to hear that. I always thought the reason I was so unhappy was because I was super~sensitive…Of course I overlooked his many cheating episodes to save our marriage. I grew up in a broken home and did not want this for our boys.
    I don’t know….something inside me is raging now and I am not willing to take his cruelty one week and telling me I’m his girl and it would kill him to lose me the next week.
    To make matters worse, we lost our oldest son, Timothy, age:22 to a tragic accident in Lehigh County, PA on 7/21/2014 when he and a co-worker were struck and killed by a train….
    I have struggled with addiction problems since my teens and had a long period of sobriety….needless to say that is over and I now am getting ready to enter yet another rehab facility…and of course, I’m the bad guy now….but I continue to advise him that I do not know if I am returning to him when treatment is over and he totally ignores me or tells me to shut up shut up shut up.
    I continue asking myself how could I have given this man 30 years of my life…my youth…when he never gets better as I always assumed (makes an ass out of you and me) he would…ie: I thought that this would be “my” time…a time when I would be loved and finally experience peace in this marriage. I’ve been so naive and I feel so very sick over it….which of course I now realized fueled my former and current addiction~with my son’s death being used as an excuse. I have no idea where to turn now at this point, but I do know that I am going to continue researching…As I’ve read about most Empaths…I’ve certainly had my share of pain so far in my almost 49 years…I mourn my youth and only hope that I make the right decisions for my future. Thank You for Sharing!!!

  4. I hate to say this for the sake I do not wish this pain on anyone but I am so grateful to read in these comments that there are others out there that understand what being in love with the evil narcissist is like. I envy you for having the strength to not answer his accidental call nor return the call. Know matter how much I am aware of what the relationship really is or who he truly is , I end up giving in and eventually answering. Even when I despise who he is. It is like I can’t stand that I can’t fix him or be enough to change him. In my heart , I know it isn’t possible and to be honest I really don’t want a life with him if I could after all he has done to me so why can’t I let go. I don’t get that. Sometimes I think I just wanting the opportunity to hurt him back knowing that not possible either but I’ve tried to look at why from every possible direction.

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