30+ Signs You Are A Toxic Person: Change Your Behavior, Not Others!

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Signs You Are A Toxic Person And Not Someone Else

Evil is real. And it lives through you and me. Most of us have encountered really terrible and bad people in our lives who are harmful and dangerous for others. But what if YOU are the bad person in the story and you don’t even realize it? Here are the signs you are a toxic person, and not someone else.

Are you a bad person?

Now I am not saying you are a toxic person who wants to be a supervillain and destroy the world. But in the course of life, we often develop certain toxic traits that can be damaging for others, and we are not even aware about it. All of us like to believe that we are inherently a good person.

That we are righteous, honest, empathic, helpful and optimistic. However, when we are truly toxic, we may be in denial of our reality and refuse to see what we truly have become – a bad person. 

Related: 5 Signs A Seemingly Nice Person Secretly Has Some Cruel Intentions

We refuse to see the tell tale signs of a bad person that are right there in front of our faces. We refuse to listen to our friends and family who keep telling us how fast we have changed. We keep telling ourselves that they are wrong.

That we are too stressed and that’s why we may be reacting this way. We keep telling ourselves that we are still good deep inside, that we are still the person we used to be – a loving, caring and kind person at heart. But as life would have it, things change. And so do we.

Life can change even the best of us. It can break us, corrupt us, transform and distort how we see the world. It’s not your fault that you have turned into someone that you barely recognize, but you can’t shirk the responsibility for being a shitty person either.

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30+ Signs You Are A Toxic Person: Change Your Behavior, Not Others!

I agree that trauma, depression, stress and life circumstances, like a failed relationship or losing a loved one can, completely change who you are inside. But once you realize that you have changed, that you have become a different person – an evil version of your older honest self – you need to take the responsibility to identify the signs you are a bad person and start changing yourself back.

To become who you truly are – a well-intentioned individual. But then again there are truly evil people out there – all those narcissists, psychopaths and weirdos that get off on hurting others. 

Related: Are Narcissists Bad People? Do They Choose To Hurt Others Or Are They Helpless?

So are you truly a bad person? Or just turning into one? The difference lies in being aware of your behaviors and how they are affecting others. Here’s how to know if you are a toxic person in your own life story:

8 Signs you are a toxic person

Do you feel like a bad person? Do you have bad personality traits that spread toxicity in others’ lives? It may be normal for some of us to be a bit skeptical of others, assume the worst in people and behave accordingly. But when our behavior starts to have a toxic influence in others’ lives and affect them negatively, we need to identify bad person signs in ourselves.

Wondering “How do I know if I have a bad personality”? Let us explore some of the most common signs you’re actually a bad person.

1. You find joy in others’ misery

Do you find it funny when someone falls and hurts themselves? Is watching horrible events in the news entertaining for you? If you experience happiness and satisfaction from failures and misfortune of others, then it’s safe to say that you are not really a good person. Known as Schadenfreude, it indicates that you have low self-esteem, high levels of aggression and a strong sense of rivalry. This feeling is especially strong when you watch someone who is more successful than you fail, due to your lack of self-esteem.

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2. You have an extreme sense of self-importance 

Do you believe that the entire world revolves around you? Do you throw a fit when others’ don’t do what you expect them to? Then it is likely you prioritize yourself unrealistically and have a strong sense of entitlement.

You are always focused on your emotions, your moods, your wants and your needs, even at the cost of others’ happiness. You believe you are truly a good person even when you refuse to compromise even on the most negligible comforts.

In fact, it is likely that you are a lowkey narcissist. This is one of the most common signs you are a bad person. 

3. You are judgemental

Granted most of us judge others, but it is more of an observation and analysis of their behavior than jumping to conclusions. However, people who are toxic judge others instantly without even understanding the other person and their motives properly.

But that’s not all. Not only do you judge people, you also make sure to criticize them and let them know how you feel about them.

Your rushed judgment of others is often wrong but that is not important to you. For you, it is more important to break the other person’s confidence and self-esteem so that they feel lesser than you. Making wrong assumptions about people and judging them for no reason is one of the signs you are a bad person.

4. You manipulate others

Do you assume the intentions of others and believe them to be true? Do you justify your actions and reactions by blaming the other person? And do you do all of this to shift the power dynamic and take advantage of the other individual?

Manipulators influence the mental and emotional states of others for control, power and privileges which may come at the expense of the other person. Not only do they pretend to be someone they are not (in your case – a good person), they make others doubt themselves, create confusion, and even affect the victim’s mental wellbeing.

Related: 5 Psychological Tricks That Evil People Use To Hurt Others

So if you, consciously or unconsciously, exploit others for your personal gains, then it is definitely one of the most prominent signs you are a bad person.

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30+ Signs You Are A Toxic Person: Change Your Behavior, Not Others!

5. You have no empathy

Answer this: If a close friend is crying and sharing their problems with you, what do you think of?

  1. Oh, that’s really sad. They surely don’t deserve this. I wonder how I can help them in this situation?
  2. Oh, that’s so boring. They have dug their own grave. I wonder when they are going to shut up. I am hungry.

If your answer is option B, then it is clear that you lack empathy and are indeed a terrible person. People low on empathy are insensitive, unsympathetic and uncompassionate. They cannot relate with the pain and suffering of others and hence, do not care what others are going through. 

Not only are you incapable of relating to others’ experiences and emotional state, you would rather criticize and blame them for their own misfortune. In fact, you believe you would have dealt with it much better if it happened to you. While lacking empathy doesn’t necessarily make you an evil person, it is certainly one of the more common ways to spot a bad person.

6. You play the victim

Are you an expert in using your tears to find an easy way out of a difficult situation? One of the most basic signs you are a bad person is that you have a victim mentality.

People who pretend to be the victim in any given situation tend to be pessimistic and believe that they are incapable of controlling their lives. They have an external locus of control and use unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with early life trauma. According to a 2015 study, “victim-sensitive individuals” are –

  • Less likely to trust others 
  • More likely to behave uncooperatively socially uncertain situations
  • More likely to behave aggressively and destructively
  • Make more egoistic choices in social dilemmas 
  • Less willing to help others in need
  • More envious and more jealous
  • Less willing to accept apologies from their partners

If these are not the signs you are a bad person, then I don’t know what is, to be honest.

Related: 23 Signs You’re Suffering From a Victim Mentality And How To Deal With It

7. You don’t apologize 

Saying “sorry” isn’t really your style, is it? As they say, to err is human. Almost all of us screw things up from time to time, but a bad person never admits their faults or mistakes. If you are a toxic individual, you will never see your mistakes or own up to your wrongdoings. You always find someone else to shift the blame and you lack the ability to truly apologize from your heart.

When you apologize to someone, it means you have to admit to yourself that you have made a mistake or wronged someone else. This can make you feel guilty, ashamed and vulnerable. Your poor sense of self-worth prevents you from admitting your mistakes. When you would rather protect your fragile ego than acknowledging that your actions have hurt someone, you become a bad person.

8. You are passive aggressive

Do you express your anger in indirect and subtle ways? Would you rather give someone the silent treatment rather than confronting them? Having a passive aggressive attitude is surely one of the signs you are a bad person. Passive aggressive people are not straight-forward in their interactions and express negative emotions without actually vocalizing what’s really bothering them. If you are passive-aggressive, then you are likely to –

  • Attack indirectly
  • Be full of resentment 
  • Oppose others indirectly
  • Resist cooperation
  • Have a hostile attitude
  • Sabotage silently
  • Be cynical
  • Make a lot of excuses
  • Procrastination 
  • Make mistakes intentionally

This indirect toxic behavior is rather harmful for others and this is what makes you a bad person.

Related: Can Introverts Be Evil? 8 Signs To Spot One

Can you identify these signs that indicate you are an evil person?

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30+ Signs You Are A Toxic Person: Change Your Behavior, Not Others!

30 More Signs You’re A Bad Person And You Don’t Care

Still wondering how to know if you’re a bad person or not? If you are still in denial, then there are some more behaviors that you need to look out for in yourself to determine if you are a toxic individual or truly a good person. Here are more signs you are a bad person –

1. You are sadistic and vindictive

2. You are self-centered and don’t really care about others

3. You are not known to be supportive or helpful

4. You make others feel uncomfortable around you

5. You love to control and dominate others

6. You have a reputation for being a liar and dishonest

7. You never feel guilty or remorseful for hurting others

8. You are rude, cruel and hurt animals

9. You have a difficult time respecting the boundaries of others

10. You refuse to be accountable for your actions

Related: Science Confirms That Dogs Can Recognize Bad People

11. You have a negative and pessimistic attitude

12. You are always worried about everything

13. You love to create drama and chaos

14. You love to gossip and talk behind people’s backs

15. You nag and complain about everything in life

16. You are not really successful in life

17. You constantly need attention

18. You lack self-awareness

19. You are greedy and take advantage of others

20. You lose your temper easily and lack self-control

Related: 9 Types of Toxic People That Will Rob You Of Your Happiness

21. You have a superiority complex

22. You are addicted to substances and alcohol

23. You threaten or manipulate people when they don’t do what you want

24. You hold onto grudges and struggle to let go

25. You always need to be right

26. You are known to be a taker, not a giver

27. You dominate every conversation you are part of

28. You don’t have any friends left because you have exploited all of them

29. You don’t believe in forgiveness

30. You are a sexist and racist

These are some of the most observable and common signs you are a bad person. 

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30+ Signs You Are A Toxic Person: Change Your Behavior, Not Others!

Do you feel surprised by the traits and signs mentioned in the list above? Can you recognize most of them in yourself? Often trauma can change us as a person and make us do things that may hurt others. Moreover, certain personality disorders can make us develop certain ‘evil’ traits. 

We don’t necessarily become bad intentionally or just to always use others. There are different levels of toxicity in people and when we are aware of our habits and traits, we can often change ourselves to become better.

Related: 16 Signs You Are Dealing With An Evil Person

If you are struggling to overcome certain toxic behaviors, then talking to a therapist can be helpful. And don’t forget to share your thoughts on the signs you are an evil person in the comments below!


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