So, What Are You Up Against Really?
In a word: Entropy.
You are always battling entropy in life.
Everything in your life, if left unattended, will decay into a state of disorder, chaos, and ruin.
I don’t say this to be dramatic, but to be realistic.
If you don’t feed yourself at all, eventually you will die.
If you don’t exercise your body at all, eventually it will cramp up, retaliate, and turn on you in progressively loud and obvious ways.
If you don’t add any value to the world (via your contributions, your character, your attitude, etc.) and you are constantly leaching energy from those around you, eventually this strategy will make your world small, limited, and miserable.
So you are always battling entropy.
You are battling the part of your mind that wants to do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING AT ALL.
And ultimately this laziness is really just a fear of life.
You are afraid to take up space… to put in the work… to be your biggest, baddest, boldest self. Because once you define goals, you can fail at them. When you define conditions for success, you can not achieve those and feel like a failure. So better to just sit back and do fuck all with your life, right? Wrong.
This is your life, and it is ending one day at a time.
Are you going to become bitter, or are you going to become better?
As always, the choice is yours alone. Because no one is coming to save you and do the work for you.
Can We Become More Attractive To Everyone?
No. Nor would you want to.
While it is absolutely possible to become more attractive, the point isn’t to become more attractive to the entire marketplace (i.e. the entirety of the gender that you’re looking to be in relationship with) but, more accurately, you want to become more attractive to a specific niche within that market that you resonate with.
To continue with the business analogy, there are very few products on the market that appeal to absolutely everyone. But there are millions of products that are wildly attractive and valuable to a certain subset of the market who are meant to use/consume those products.
For example, an iPhone could be useless to someone who lives off of the grid, doesn’t like using electricity for any reason, and wants to live a life of isolation… but wildly useful to a 28-year-old graphic designer who lives in San Fransisco and runs their own business.
So value is always relative.
Alright, enough pre-amble.
If at this point, you feel resentful of the mirror that I have held up to you, then it’s best you turn back now and go back into your mom’s basement.
If you’re ready to do the work and make something more of yourself, then here we go. From the superficial to the deep inner work, we’ll cover the whole spectrum in this beast of a guide.
Here are the eleven highest leverage ways you can become a more attractive man to the type of partner you’re looking to attract.
11 Psychological Hacks For Men To Become More Attractive
1. Improve your body.
Putting effort into your physical fitness is less about looking jacked and having six pack abs than it is about what it says about your relationship to yourself overall.
If you put energy into how your body functions and operates, then any potential romantic partner that might be sussing you out can accurately trust that you are a man who is willing to take care of himself and attend to his own needs.