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Master Your Empathic Abilities Using S.O.A.R

Master Your Empathic Abilities Using This ONE Empowering Technique

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So much has been written on the topic of thriving as an empath.

Many articles and columns have been released on how to “survive” as a sensitive person susceptible to absorbing other’s energy. These articles mention techniques such as “blocking,” “shielding” and “protecting” oneself from others. Unfortunately, this approach unknowingly harnesses the language of victimhood and weakness.

As I’ve mentioned in a previous article, shielding, protecting and blocking yourself off from others is not only a useless technique, but it is also detrimental to your well-being.

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As an empath, I’ve actually tried these techniques many times, but they created more harm and stress than good. For others, creating barriers was the only defense available. I completely understand this: what else are you supposed to do when you feel bombarded, murky, sick and imbalanced?

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Today, I want to challenge these commonly prescribed techniques. While I personally believe that there are many positive complementary techniques out there that help to reduce your stress as an empath, I believe the following technique is the single most important one you can learn.

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It goes like this:

Surrender —> Observe —> Accept —> Release

I abbreviate this technique to: SOAR.

The word “SOAR” nicely doubles to mean “to fly or transcend.” You can soar far above the darkness and emotional congestion you experience as an empath. We’ll find out how below.


Your Empathic Abilities Don’t Have To Be A Curse

Aren’t you sick of being told that sensitivity is a weakness? In reality, it is a sensitivity that allows us to experience a life of depth. It is a sensitivity that allows us to listen to our deepest needs and dreams. It is a sensitivity that allows us to be of service to others. It is a sensitivity that permits us to perceive the intricate beauty and divinity of life.

To the untrained empath, empathic abilities equal incessant pain, muddy confusion, and rollercoaster emotions. But they don’t have to.

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SOAR is a technique I created, but on the other hand, it didn’t really create. Inspired by zen philosophy and mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT), SOAR is very much a way of life. Thus, it is not just a slap-and-dash technique that can be easily plastered over pain: it requires practice, persistence and hella willpower! Thankfully, we all possess this.

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S.O.A.R Broken Down

SOAR can be broken down in the following way:

Surrender —

Relax your body. Take a deep breath in. Consciously surrender to whatever tension or discomfort you are feeling without fighting it. Feel the emotions within you. Before surrendering, it helps to first clearly identify what you are feeling, e.g. lethargy, anger, muscle tension, melancholy, fear.


Observe —

Allow yourself to purely feel the emotions within you, without judgment. What do they look like, sound like, taste like or even smell like? Use your senses to build a tangible image of them.

For example, the anxiety within you may feel like a wet, swampy puddle oozing through your core. Or the overwhelming sensation of clashing energy may look like fierce red fireworks. Remember: observe these emotions without becoming attached to them. Of course, this is easier said than done (and a whole book could be written on this topic, which I’m considering!). Simply allow the feelings to rise and flow, like the ocean’s tides.

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Accept —

As you observe the emotions and sensations within you, accept them. Don’t resist them. Welcome them as temporary sojourners in the temple of your body. Soon they will leave. Nothing ever remains. Remember that.

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Aletheia Luna
Aletheia Luna is an influential spiritual writer whose work has changed the lives of thousands of people worldwide. After escaping the religious sect she was raised in, Luna experienced a profound existential crisis that led to her spiritual awakening. As a spiritual counselor and professional writer, Luna's mission is to help others become conscious of their entrapment and find joy, empowerment, and liberation in any circumstance. See more of her work at
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