Master Your Empathic Abilities Using This One Empowering Technique

 February 01, 2017

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Master Your Empathic Abilities Using This One Empowering Technique



So much has been written on the topic of thriving as an empath.

Many articles and columns have been released on how to “survive” as a sensitive person susceptible to absorbing other’s energy. These articles mention techniques such as “blocking,” “shielding” and “protecting” oneself from others. Unfortunately, this approach unknowingly harnesses the language of victimhood and weakness.

As I’ve mentioned in a previous article, shielding, protecting and blocking yourself off from others is not only a useless technique, but it is also detrimental to your well-being. As an empath, I’ve actually tried these techniques many times, but they created more harm and stress than good. For others, creating barriers was the only defense available. I completely understand this: what else are you supposed to do when you feel bombarded, murky, sick and imbalanced?

Today, I want to challenge these commonly prescribed techniques. While I personally believe that there are many positive complementary techniques out there that help to reduce your stress as an empath, I believe the following technique is the single most important one you can learn.




It goes like this:

Surrender —> Observe —> Accept —> Release

I abbreviate this technique to: SOAR.

The word “SOAR” nicely doubles to mean “to fly or transcend.” You can soar far above the darkness and emotional congestion you experience as an empath. We’ll find out how below.

 

Your Empathic Abilities Don’t Have To Be A Curse

Aren’t you sick of being told that sensitivity is a weakness? In reality, it is sensitivity that allows us to experience a life of depth. It is sensitivity that allows us to listen to our deepest needs and dreams. It is sensitivity that allows us to be of service to others. It is sensitivity that permits us to perceive the intricate beauty and divinity of life.

To the untrained empath, empathic abilities equal incessant pain, muddy confusion and rollercoaster emotions. But they don’t have to.

SOAR is a technique I created, but on the other hand, didn’t really create. Inspired by zen philosophy and mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT), SOAR is very much a way of life. Thus, it is not just a slap-and-dash technique that can be easily plastered over pain: it requires practice, persistence and hella willpower! Thankfully, we all possess this.

 

S.O.A.R Broken Down

SOAR can be broken down in the following way:

Surrender — Relax your body. Take a deep breath in. Consciously surrender to whatever tension or discomfort you are feeling without fighting it. Feel the emotions within you. Before surrendering, it helps to first clearly identify what you are feeling, e.g. lethargy, anger, muscle tension, melancholy, fear.




Observe — Allow yourself to purely feel the emotions within you, without judgement. What do they look like, sound like, taste like or even smell like? Use your senses to build a tangible image of them. For example, the anxiety within you may feel like a wet, swampy puddle oozing through your core. Or the overwhelming sensation of clashing energy may look like fierce red fireworks. Remember: observe these emotions without becoming attached to them. Of course, this is easier said than done (and a whole book could be written on this topic, which I’m considering!). Simply allow the feelings to rise and flow, like the ocean’s tides.

Accept — As you observe the emotions and sensations within you, accept them. Don’t resist them. Welcome them as temporary sojourners in the temple of your body. Soon they will leave. Nothing ever remains. Remember that.

Release — As you go through the gentle motions of surrender, observation and acceptance, you will eventually sense the feelings dissipating. While very intense and jammed away emotions can return again, don’t let this stress you out. Go through each of these steps again as many times as you need.

SOAR is a technique that must be practiced like meditation first, and a moment-to-moment experience later. Set aside a few minutes every day (such as in your lunch break at work), and focus on calming and relaxing yourself. There are so many ways you can do this, e.g. through visualization, focusing on your breath, walking on grass, humming, listening to music, etc.

It is imperative that you learn a self-soothing practice that appeals to you. Without centering yourself, you won’t have much success with the rest of the steps.

Below I will provide a simple transcript of what SOAR practice is like in action:




5 comments on “Master Your Empathic Abilities Using This One Empowering Technique

  1. Excuse me but what the fuck? Since the moment I’ve read surrender I knew that it has really not the way. As an empath I avoid everything I can and live a balanced life as much as I can and I do everything in order to keep my life peaceful and nice. It can be a choice, the way of your life rather than being absorbed and drowned in such negativity….. You have a choice, better than surrendering and working with someone else’s shit.

  2. I agree with SOAR, I act like this for some time, even without naming processes, but with this text I see more clearly now, then thank you =).

    One thing that helps me is at the end of the processes, to feel the feeling in me and to delimit it, so that I can get it with my fingers, so I energize my hand and place it on my breast or my solar plexus, And in my mind my fingers protrude inward so that I can withdraw the feeling from others / negatives .. so I finish this process by projecting white energy to the “hole” that has been in the solar breast / plexus or other location. I felt I had to write and write, I hope it helps some things.

    I’m sorry for my English from google translator, I read well in English but I do not write very well =)

    Hugs!

  3. I absolutely love this article, it’s about empowering ourselves through the gift we have. As many empaths know, it can be soul crushing and debilitating. I think the first most important step is to learn how to distinguish between yours and others emotions and energies. Once you are mindful you then become conscious and aware. This allows you to detach and observe. Achieving this will inevitably lead you to a point where you really can SOAR! Love and blessings to all xxx

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