Every relationship is prone to mistakes and learning, but one of the most important things you can do for a woman is to make her feel loved. Contrary to what most men believe, it does not take a lot to make a woman feel happy and safe in a relationship; it’s always the little things that make them happy and feel special.
I’m no expert on women.
In fact, after a divorce, it would be fair to say that I failed miserably with the woman in my life.
Upon further reflection, however, I learned a few things about how to treat, love, and care for the woman I am with. It may have been too late for my marriage, but it isn’t too late for my next relationship. Or for your next relationship.
You could say that mistakes and failures in relationships are the keys to learning, growth, and understanding. The worse you are in relationships, the better you can understand them.
It’s true what they say – failure is the breeding ground for success.
Based on my own experiences and having checked in with women I know, here are 11 ways to make a woman feel loved.
1. Make time for her consistently.
A woman feels loved when you make time for and prioritize her in your life. I’ve seen a lot of men who tend to create lots of time for women during the dating process, but not once we’re in a relationship with them.
Just like how you create time for anything else you value in your life, you have to create time for the woman in your life. Make it time that’s dedicated exclusively to her – fun nights out, game nights at home, or joint adventures with friends.
Creating time for the woman in your life helps her feel important, cared for, and loved. If you continually date and woo her, she won’t feel taken for granted.
2. Appreciate her.
Most women go out of their way to nurture, care for, and serve the people they care most about. So much of their work and giving is ignored. Simple appreciation for what she means to you can make a world of difference to her.
There are so many things women do that we take for granted. Thoughtful gestures, healing touch, passionate kiss, care for children, or thoughtfulness toward family are just some of the many things a man can appreciate about the woman in his life.
3. Acknowledge her.
Notice what she did and let her know that you appreciate it. A thoughtful gesture, kind word, or a small gift will help her feel appreciated. Take your gratitude practice up a notch by looking for what you can appreciate about the woman you’re with, not what you can criticize her for.
4. Accept her for who she is.
Appreciate her for the best version of herself instead of reminding her of her flaws. The simplest way to love a woman is to accept her for who she is – no need to change her or wish she were different. No need to tell her that she doesn’t measure up or is insufficient in some way.
Society has spent generation after generation creating an “ideal” mold that all women should fit into. Society tells women what to do, what to eat, how to look, and even how to dress. Just because news, media, and culture harass women and get them to conform doesn’t mean that you should.
Tell your woman you love her unconditionally and accept her completely for who she is – no improvement needed.
5. Let go of trying to change her.
Along the same lines of accepting her is learning to let go of trying to change her in the relationship. You can’t expect or demand that a woman be a certain way in your relationship.
You can’t change a woman. The best way to help a woman become the best version of herself is through compassion, understanding, and kindness.
Instead of attempting to change her or to get her to become someone she’s not, work on becoming the best person you can be. Work on your growth, your desire to change her, and how to let go of that desire.
6. Cultivate compassion.
Part of accepting her involves compassion and understanding for what she’s going through.
Compassion means understanding her challenges, her upbringing, and the difficulties she’s experiencing in daily life. Compassion means being present, being empathetic, and being forgiving – it’s seeing where she’s coming from.
It’s not having to be right all the time. It’s letting her do things the way she wants to do them.
Compassion is putting yourself in her shoes. Compassion is seeing things from her perspective. Compassion is being there for her or being thoughtful toward her as she’s experiencing a life challenge. Compassion can involve simply creating space for her or holding her for comfort.