On many occasions, the inner dialogue is negative and strengthens any negative attitude or behavior.
Most people do not have enough faith in themselves and in their abilities, and therefore, they allow their mind to engage in negative inner dialogues.
The process and effects of these inner conversations are similar to repeating affirmations. Constant thinking about the same subject affects the subconscious mind, which consequently, accepts these thoughts and words and acts on them.
Negative inner dialogues create negative results, and positive inner dialogues create positive results. That’s why you should switch to positive self talk.
It’s simple. If you fill your mind with negative dialogues, you start expecting negative results, lose motivation and avoid taking action.
On the other hand, if you keep conducting positive dialogues, you become a more positive person, seek opportunities and take action.
How to Use Inner Conversations to Your Advantage
Inner conversation is an automatic activity, which goes on whether you are aware of it or not. If you learn to become aware of it, you gain the ability to control it. You can turn it into a positive dialogue. If you do that, you come to realize that you have a mighty power in your possession.
How to do that? Try to be merely aware of your thoughts and internal conversations.
1. Calmly, try to watch what is going in your mind, even if after a few moments you might forget to do so.
The inner dialogue goes on, even when physically, you are engaged with something else. It is not so easy to mentally separate oneself from the thoughts and words that flow through the mind.
2. Over and again, strive to keep your attention on what is going inside your head, and eventually, you will be able to become aware of the inner dialogue for longer periods of time.
Watching the mind and what is going on inside it develops detachment, and this makes it easier to control the mind and its nonstop chatter.
3. Whenever you catch yourself conducting a useless, futile conversation with yourself, stop it. Change it to something more useful and meaningful. Replace the subject and the words with something more positive. It is just like listening to a recording. Why not replace it with another recording that you like? Why let this recording play by itself?
Change the words of the inner dialogue to positive ones, about good health, happiness and success.
There is another thing you can do, but this requires a certain degree of concentration and willpower. You can learn to stop this inner conversation, by ignoring it, and giving your mind a vacation from the thoughts that run in it.
Why not let the mind rest for a little while, and enjoy some rest from its incessant conversations. There will be more happiness and peace when this dialogue is silenced.
It’s okay to have an inner dialogue sometimes, but most of the time, it is just useless chatter, which distracts the attention from what you are doing at the moment. By becoming aware of it, replacing it with positive thoughts, and refusing to become involved with it, you gain the ability to control it.
If you wish to learn more about calming down your inner conversation and enjoying inner peace, you will find the book Calm Down the Nonstop Chatter of Your Mind most useful.