The Mental Murder Tactic – When The Narc Says ‘You Are Dead To Me’

 November 25, 2017

 

“Narcissistic personality disorder is named for Narcissus, from Greek mythology, who fell in love with his own reflection. Freud used the term to describe persons who were self-absorbed, and psychoanalysts have focused on the narcissist’s need to bolster his or her self-esteem through grandiose fantasy, exaggerated ambition, exhibitionism, and feelings of entitlement.”
― Donald W. Black, DSM-5 Guidebook: The Essential Companion to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

Whom do narcissists love most? Themselves.

Whom do narcissists love after themselves? Themselves.

Who can they think of apart from themselves? Nobody.

For a narcissist, it’s always I, Me and Myself.

But, this core composed of I, Me and Myself are covered by a thick layer of charisma. People around them find them as dashing, admirable, intelligent, wit. They roam around with an aura of elegance and have a really big group of followers who are always busy pleasing and flattering their narcissist leader. It is this image a narcissist carries around.

But this is fake. Whatever you are seeing is an illusion because the narcissist is not the person they pretend to be. They are good orators and can convince people, manipulate them. Will all these misleading appearance and manipulative skills, they master the art of illusion.

If you believe in them, you are just becoming a victim of their illusionary tricks. A narcissist, after all, is the master of illusion.

Now that you have fallen in love with a narcissist or rather you have fallen for the illusion, try to understand your value in their lives. What role are you playing?

What’s most important to the narcissist is to keep on enhancing this outer charming layer of their identities. That’s where you come in, as a make-up box or an accessory. As long as you can amplify their charm, you are useful to them. When you fail to do so, you are just removed from their lives. Even if you can keep on intensifying their charm, there are chances of you being thrown out. If you hold the risks of revealing the persona behind the charming face, you will be eliminated from their lives because a narcissist is always suffering from the insecurity that their true image will be ruined.

They will trash you in such a way as if you never existed at all and the emotions they shared with you have vanished like camphor all of a sudden. For them, relationships matter as long as they could be beneficial only for them.

Love for a narcissist is self-love.

A narcissist falls in love with a person who can add value to their lives but has no intention of reciprocating the same. It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship you share with the narcissist. You might be a spouse, a child, a teacher or a friend. If you stop being useful to their lives, they are going to replace you soon. They don’t care about the good moments spent with you. They might have said something which you thought were reciprocations but in reality, they were as fake as the character they carry.

A narcissist wears marks all the time.

But if you have an intimate relationship with them, you will get to see their real self…a self which is extremely cruel, egoistic and self-absorbed. Once they are exposed in front of you, they will try to kill you before you kill them by revealing their true form in front of others.

According to Dr. Keith Ablow,

One comment on “The Mental Murder Tactic – When The Narc Says ‘You Are Dead To Me’

  1. You might want to read M. Scott Peck, People of the Lie. Never mind psychological murder, he goes further and calls this systematic behaviour SOUL KILLING, or the opposite of homicide…its the actual murder of one’s spirit or soul

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