A person’s subconscious behavior hugely influences how one lives his/her life, and most of the time you don’t even realize it. Similarly, sometimes these same subconscious behaviors can stop you from finding happiness.
Every generation has a “monoculture” of sorts, a governing pattern or system of beliefs that people unconsciously accept as “truth.”
It’s easy to identify the monoculture of Germany in the 1930s, or America in 1776. It’s clear what people at those times, in those places, accepted to be “good” and “true” even when in reality, that was certainly not always the case.
The objectivity required to see the effects of present monoculture is very difficult to maintain (once you have so deeply accepted an idea as ‘truth’ it doesn’t register as ‘cultural’ or ‘subjective’ anymore) but it’s crucial.
So much of our inner turmoil is simply the result of conducting a life we don’t inherently agree with because we have accepted an inner narrative of “normal” and “ideal” without even realizing it.
The fundamentals of any given monoculture tend to surround how to live your best life, how to live a better life, and what’s most worth living for (nation, religion, self, etc.) and there are a number of ways in which our current system has us shooting ourselves in the feet as we try to step forward.
Simply, there are a few fundamentals on happiness, decision-making, instinct following, and peace finding that we don’t seem to understand.
So here are eight of the daily behaviors and unconscious habits that are keeping you from the life you really want.
8 Subconscious Behaviors That Stop You From Finding Happiness
1. You Believe That Creating Your Best Possible Life Is A Matter Of Deciding What You Want And Then Going After It, But In Reality, You Are Psychologically Incapable Of Being Able To Predict What Will Make You Happy.
Your brain can only perceive what it’s known, so when you choose what you want for the future, you’re actually just re-creating a solution or an ideal of the past.
Ironically, when said ideas don’t come to fruition (things never look the way we think they will) you suffer because you think you’ve failed when really, you’re most likely experiencing something better than you could have chosen for yourself at the time.
(Moral of the story: Living in the moment isn’t a lofty ideal reserved for the zen and enlightened, it’s the only way to live a life that isn’t infiltrated with illusions… it’s the only thing your brain can actually comprehend).
2. You Extrapolate The Present Moment Because You Believe That Success Is Somewhere You “Arrive,” So You Are Constantly Trying To Take A Snapshot Of Your Life And See If You Can Be Happy Yet.
You accidentally convince yourself that any given moment is your life when in reality, it is a moment in your life. Because we’re wired to believe that success is somewhere we get to – when goals are accomplished and things are completed – we’re constantly measuring our present moments by how “finished” they are, how good the story sounds, how someone else would judge the summary. (If at any point you find yourself thinking: “Is this all there is?” you’re forgetting that everything is transitory.
There is nowhere to “arrive” at. The only thing you’re rushing toward is death. Accomplishing goals is not a success. How much you learn and enjoy and expand in the process of doing them is).