He is attractive and charming. He knows exactly what you want to hear. And he knows how to make your heart pound. But he never actually walks the talk. Does he? If you are dating a player and he is playing you, you will always know. You just need to look for it.
I couldโve used the word chased here, like a lot of people do, but the thing is a highly evolved high vibrational man will never, ever chase a woman.
Chasing a woman is something that is done by somebody that doesnโt feel like they deserve a great woman. Chasing is a lack of abundance, think about the terms we use with a chase.
Besides the bank Chase which is full of abundance.
When weโre chasing after another team, it means the team is better than us. Weโre chasing them in the standings, it means theyโre better than us. Weโre chasing our dreams, which means we donโt know how to live our dreams. Weโre chasing money. It means we donโt have an abundant mindset with money.
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So letโs talk about these three signs, these three things that will tell you that the man youโre with is not really pursuing you, heโs playing you.
3 Warning Signs He’s Playing You
1. Date One Promises.
Men who play know exactly what to say. A man who is playing a woman knows exactly what she wants to hear on date number one.
Heโll tell you how evolved he is.
If youโre a spiritual Yogi girl.
Or if youโre a girl that has done lots of self-work.
Heโll tell you about the spiritual path heโs been on.
Heโll tell you how heโs healed his inner child.
Heโll tell you flat out that heโs looking for a high vibrational partner to share life with, to be present, to be open with.
Now a man that is open like that will also say that, so you have to kind of put an asterisk next to it.
Because a really high vibrational man will actually tell you all the work that heโs done, and heโll tell you when heโs ready for a real partnership. So date number one will seem strangely the same, except a man thatโs playing you will take you to this level on date number two.
2. A Man Whoโs Actually Your High Vibrational Partner Will Actually Allow You To Show Yourself Because He Wants To See The Real You.
He doesnโt want to play you, chase you, or anything, he wants to pursue you, and allow you to show the beauty of you.
But a man thatโs playing you? The high vibrational talk stops, as a matter of fact, the conversation gets a little more sexual in nature.
Heโs engaging you a little bit with dirty talk and texts. He might be doing it subliminally if heโs a really good player, or if heโs a mediocre player, he might right get down to the naughty and dirty right away.
You see, a player, once he feels that he has you on an emotional level because he knows a certain amount about women, heโll try to play you sexually as quickly as possible. The real high vibrational man.
The person you want to spend time with and get to know could care less about sex because he already knows youโve already made love to each other in his mind. So he doesnโt need to rush the sex, which leads us to number three.
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3. Heโll Fall Flat On His Face, And Literally Not Be As Communicative As He Was In The Beginning.
Letโs say youโve got two dates under your belt, he feels like he could sleep with you, or youโve already made the mistake and been played and slept with him too quickly. Heโll start to vanish because a player actually just likes the initial pursuit, itโs actually high.
Itโs great to be able to spin the web of seduction over an unsuspecting woman. Itโs wonderful to get that high, itโs literally a rush, and to see if he can quickly get you amped up sexually so you can be his. Whether you sleep with him or not, when youโre being played.
It sometimes doesnโt matter if he sleeps with you or not, sometimes he just needs the validation that he can and that he could.
So what happens after that, once he gets his ego validated or his physical side validated, he normally starts to do the disappearing act. All of a sudden you donโt hear from him for four or five days when you used to hear from him every single day. Heโs vanishing because heโs onto the next emotional or egotistical or physical conquest because thatโs what a player does.
How Do I Know This So Well?
Because I was a player from probably 20 to probably 30.
Then I was a player again in my late 30s and early 40s. I love women. I love the seduction. I got off on the chase if you notice the word Iโm using, the chase.
I got off in emotionally connecting and I got off knowing that I can either have her or have her, that was high that I was looking for, it was a drug to me it was the most amazing drug in the world and I didnโt care whether or not I was hurting anybody or not.
Iโve evolved since then. Now, I actually am looking for my high vibrational equal. Iโm looking for her, sometimes I think, maybe sheโs reading my articles, maybe she is next to me on the subway.
Maybe sheโs next to me in traffic in a car, maybe Iโm going to find her in Whole Foods. Iโm putting out that energy every single day because I no longer want to be the chaser. I want to be the attractor.
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So think about it the next time youโre with somebody and look for these red flag warning signs.
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Written by David Wygant
Originally appeared on David Wygnant
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