Are you an empath and have you ever been in a relationship with a narcissist? How long was it till you found out the real truths of narcissists?
It’s no secret that Empaths feel it’s their obligation to save the world. And when they’re being manipulated by a Narcissist, this sense of obligation becomes their whole identity as the Narcissist plays the victim to excess.
What a heavyweight we carry when we decide to take on the burden of another person’s choices or life.
It’s crucial for Empaths to acknowledge that Narcissists are disordered. When we support them, we are either knowingly or unknowingly supporting a lie, as the person, we think we’re helping doesn’t really exist.
While this fact alone is hard enough to swallow, the following are seven more painful truths that all Empaths must eventually face about Narcissists.
1. The narcissist isn’t a tortured soul who needs your special kind of love.
Almost every Empath who’s ever been in a relationship with a narcissist has held the belief that if they could just show the narcissist how deep their unconditional love ran, then the narcissist would finally have an epiphany where he or she realized that there is a special and rare kind of love available to them, after all.
The love of an Empath certainly has its healing qualities, but it does nothing to change a narcissist’s behaviors or motives in the relationship. Narcissists are morally bankrupt individuals who do not appreciate the things other people do for them.
Instead, they feel completely entitled to whatever love and devotion are directed towards them. Almost every person the narcissist has been involved with gave them this unconditional love but, sadly, narcissists consider such love and devotion disposable.
Want to know more about the truths about narcissists? Read Projection: The Lethal Weapon Narcissists and Abusers Use To Target Empaths
2. Although everyone admires and appreciates your compassionate nature, it also makes you highly attractive to narcissists.
If everyone in the world boasted an Empath’s qualities, we’d live in a Utopia. But, sadly, the world is full of manipulators who seek out and exploit people with the Empath’s character traits, such as these:
- Taking criticism to heart, reflecting on how their words and actions might affect other people.
- Being highly empathic, having the ability to sense the emotions of others, and respond instinctively in ways that help those in need.
- Having a high level of tolerance, embracing the beliefs, practices, and lifestyles of other people.
Narcissists look for cooperativeness and compassion in partners because they know that they themselves don’t possess these traits at their most basic level, and excessively cooperative partners will put in the work of two people to keep the relationship going, projecting their own desirable traits onto the narcissist, thereby filling in the yawning gaps in order to make the relationship seem more normal.
This high level of cooperativeness is the most significant trait narcissists look for in partners because they intuitively know that such partners will stay in the relationship with them way beyond reasonable limits.
3. The narcissist isn’t interested in your deep thoughts.
Empaths are deep thinkers who possess highly evolved viewpoints about people and the world. It’s hard to find anything that makes an Empath feel more alive than finding a kindred spirit to share their thoughts and opinions with.
Narcissists put on a good show, pretending to be enlightened and advanced in modern philosophies, but the truth about their close-minded dogmas is eventually discovered which profoundly shatters the Empath’s heart. Worse, once the relationship begins to sour, the narcissist typically mocks and ridicules the Empath for his or her views and theories.
4. The narcissist is your soul mate, but not in the way you’d hoped.
Urban dictionary defines soulmate as:
A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet — a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, strong, and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior. Your soulmate understands and connects with you in every way and on every level, which brings a sense of peace, calmness, and happiness when you are around them.