Being in a relationship with someone who has an INTJ personality can be rather difficult. They are curious beings who love to question everything and view conflict as an opportunity to learn. But this can make them seem like the devil to people who love them.
Have you ever had a family member who is extremely smart, but not the greatest at emotionally connecting with you?
Or do you have a friend that questions everything you do and loves to ask the question “why?”
Or maybe you have a very intelligent boss who is capable of solving complicated problems, but he never listens to any of your good ideas?
Chances are that you are in a relationship with someone in the INTJ Meyers-Brigg personality.
Being in an INTJ relationship can be quite challenging so here’s the breakdown on everything you need to know about them and how to best connect with them.
For the purposes of this article, I will be personifying the INTJ personality and using it as a noun.
What is an INTJ?
INTJ’s are one of the rarest personality types and form only 2% of the population. Here is a brief overview of the characteristics:
(I)ntroversion – They focus their attention inward and get their energy from having time alone
i(N)tuition– They rely on the information they get from within themselves. As a result, they tend to focus more on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details.
(T)hinking – They prefer to make their decisions based on their own logical reasoning and analysis rather than their own emotions.
(J)udgement – They orient themselves to the external world through planning and organization rather than going with the flow and having sponinaeity.
What are INTJs like?
INTJs are natural-born leaders, but they don’t rush to take charge of situations unless they feel it’s absolutely necessary. They are able to think quick on their feet and come up with effective solutions when things are not going well.
They are intensely curious and have an engineering type mind where they always have a need to comprehend how things work.
More importantly, the purpose of their need to understand things actually isn’t to satisfy their curiosity, but it’s more to figure out how to apply that knowledge in an innovative manner to effectively create improvement.
Their high level of competency enables them to do this very effective and it doesn’t take them long to understand new ideas.
Their brains operate like they are constantly playing chess where they are always analyzing situations and planning strategies and tactics to place themselves in the best situations. This is why they have the innate capability to outsmart others the most compared to any other personality type.
The benefits of being in a relationship with an INTJ
As you can imagine, being in an INTJ relationship can have quite a few amazing perks:
1. They are amazing problem solvers.
INTJs invest themselves heavily in their rational thought, logic, and analysis of cause and effect. This, in turn, enables them to objectively assess challenges to find the root cause of an issue and come up with the best solutions.
You’ve probably noticed that when you have a complex problem, you’ve been trying to figure out for a while, an INTJ sometimes can solve that problem in a matter of minutes.
2. They create the best-case scenarios.
INTJs excellent critical thinking skills combined with their love for innovation gives them the amazing ability to improve existing systems and processes.
This is why they hate following traditions and procedures without understanding the purpose and value of them.
They have a need to understand why things are done the way they are so they can evaluate if that’s the best way to do it.
This trait can prove to be extremely helpful when you are trying to figure out things like how to find good deals, plan trips or choose the best product to buy.