Why I’m being quiet at the moment?
Being introverted can be hard especially because my brain seems to react to most social situations in only one of two ways – Everything that’s on my mind comes flowing out in one go or I just go completely quiet.
When I do the former, people mistakenly believe that I’m not actually an introvert.
When I do the latter, they think that something is bothering me or they are boring me. They inquire about my health and I don’t have anything to say because I really am okay.
Or they make an observation about my silence which only makes me more conscious.
So I’m writing this now to tell people what is actually happening in my head when I’m in the second state.
1) My brain suddenly became a blank state
I just cannot come up with a suitable response to whatever you’re saying to me. And the quiet between us is only making this worse because the awkwardness makes me freeze up even more.
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I can’t even figure out if I’m thinking about something or if I’m not thinking about anything. Everything becomes a jumble that I can’t comprehend enough to put in a coherent sentence. So, I am being quiet.
2) My mind is occupied
Does this text make me look like an idiot? Should I get Chinese or Indian for tonight? If something is going on in my head, I can’t simultaneously make conversation.
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I concentrate on whatever is going on inside. I can’t keep up with two flows of thought at the same time because I tend to throw myself completely into one task. If you wait for a while, I’ll think things through and soon enough, I’ll be ready to join the conversation again.
3) I can’t handle too many people
There is just so much noise! When so many people are trying to talk over each other at the same time, it can get really confusing.
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I don’t know when it’s alright for me to speak or even who to respond to first. I don’t want to offend anyone and I don’t want to say anything dumb. So, I choose to be quiet.
Topic change very quickly and I can’t get a break to collect my thoughts. Conversations end before they even begin and nobody is actually making valid contributions that make you think. I hate meaningless chatter and I can’t take part if it’s not a discussion that matters.
4) There’s really cool stuff going on in my mind
I’m a quiet person and this helps me better observe everything that is going on around me.
I pay a lot of attention to whoever is around me, the way they all interact with each other, what kind of vibe is there in the room, pretty much anything you can think of.
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I tend to get lost in thought just analyzing all the details I’ve managed to pick up on. Others might say I’m thinking too much but it’s something I’m good at and I love doing it.
There are times when I get fixated on something that is not positive but this doesn’t happen very often. I just cannot make conversation while my mind is occupied. So, this is why I’m being quite.
5) You aren’t receptive to what I have to say
I notice this every now and then. In fact, I think everyone does. There are just times when I can’t talk about an issue I really want to talk about because it feels like the person I’m talking to doesn’t really care.
It might be that I had tried to talk to them earlier and I just ended up feeling bad that I did. I’ll be less willing to open up when they are around.
6) I’m not having a good day
There are times when people are right when they wonder if I’m okay. I’m bothered about something.
Maybe I didn’t make it through an interview, maybe I had an argument with someone I care about, or maybe it just feels like every little thing is going haywire around me.
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At the same time, I don’t wish to address my issues at that moment. I have to be able to analyze the problem first. I need some quiet time. Maybe then I’ll be ready to have a discussion.
7) I want to get away but people around me are oblivious
I’m usually a decent listener but some people just end up being too much for me to handle. It’s also really irritating then they keep saying the same things over and over again.
Not to mention the people who just keep whining about problems that could be easily solved if they took action instead of wasting time complaining.
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When this happens, I try my best to send subtle signals indicating that I want the conversation to end but sometimes, people just don’t get it. I might just end up stopping you mid-way. Sometimes, I choose to be quite.
8) I lack the energy
As cliche as it may sound, it’s not you, it’s me. I may have been putting in long hours at work without getting enough sleep.
I’m brain-dead, physically drained and all I want to do is crash into my bed. It’s already hard enough for me to deal with people but today I’m just not up to it.
9) I’m lost in my mind
Yes, I like to daydream. I have plenty of imagination and I sometimes trap myself in it without intending to.
But what can I do if my fantasy world is often better than the sad one we love in? I’ll always do my best to apologize for drifting off.
10) I need some time to myself
I’ve just been around too many people. I’ve had guests all week, multiple meetings at work, dinners with friends that I can’t escape, and I just haven’t had time to myself.
I need to be in isolation for some time so that I can rejuvenate. I need to collect all my thoughts and rest my mind and body. I’ll be back to normal in no time at all. This is why I’m being quite.
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