I always encourage my clients to not only make a list of the attributes they want in a man but to make a list of why a man would be lucky to have them.
My list looks something like this: I am a good friend, a great mother and an exceptional caregiver. I am tough as nails, I have lived all over the world, I am intelligent, funny, kind and successful at whatever I try. I am willing to take risks. I’m willing to make myself vulnerable. Any man would be lucky to have me.
I typed up this list and put it on my refrigerator. Every day, instead of reading a list of what I wanted in a man, I read a list of why a man should want to be with me. Every day I remind myself that loving myself is the key to letting go of the love that I have lost and finding a new love for my future.
Letting go of love with love for yourself is one of the healthiest ways to get through these difficult times.
It’s so easy to focus on everything that is wrong with you when you have been rejected but DON’T.
Do things to take care of yourself, do things to take care of the world, spend time with family and friends who love you, accomplish something and take stock of what an amazing woman you are.
I know it seems like the pain of your loss will last forever but I can promise you that learning to love yourself will help ease the pain in the short run and set you up to find the love of your life down the road.
You can do it!
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Written by Savannah Grey
Originally appeared on Esteemology.com
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