5 Signs He’s Not Your Soulmate (And You’re Settling For Second Best)

 May 01, 2018

5 Signs He’s Not Your Soulmate (And You’re Settling For Second Best)

You deserve the real thing.

Time and again you’ve probably heard the phrase, “When it’s right, you’ll just know.”

Many are a bit impatient when it comes to waiting for Ms. or Mr. Right to show up.

I have friends who were so determined to get married and have a family that they wasted no time in their quest for an easy prey who would give them exactly what they wanted. They cared about the guy and even enjoyed being with him.

But they didn’t have that connection that you feel when you’re with your soulmate.

One of the couples is now divorced, and another almost got divorced. After some marriage counseling, they decided to work things out.


Good things — and lasting love — come to those who wait, and here are 5 signs that you’re more in love with the idea of love than actually finding a soulmate.


1.  You’re willing to settle because what you desire is more important than who you’re with.

If you want the wedding, the 2.5 kids, and the white picket fence, and don’t really care who it’s with (as long as he’s a good provider and is nice to you) then you’re probably not ready to fall in love.

Or, if you want love primarily because you don’t want to be the only single person at family functions or weddings, then you’re probably not ready to fall in love.

Definitely, keep your eyes on the prize, but make sure that the prize is what you truly desire. You deserve to have an amazing relationship with crackling chemistry and the potential to last forever!


2.  You’re trying to avoid something.

If you’re seeking to avoid hurt or loneliness, then you’re probably not ready to fall in love.

They say the best way to get over a relationship is to get into another one.

The problem with this is that you’re bringing your past relationship into the next one.

If you haven’t had enough time to grieve, then there’s an almost certainty that the next one won’t last, either. Allow yourself to feel the pain in order to heal. I promise that the sadness won’t last forever.

If you’re lonely or bored, then fill your time with activities you love. Enjoy your singlehood, instead of being a victim to it. When you’re having fun and are in acceptance of where you are, that’s when you’ll exude the glow that attracts great partners into your life.

Like attracts like.

So if you’re falling in love to avoid pain, your new boyfriend/girlfriend will probably be, too. If you’re falling in love because you’re lonely, your new boyfriend/girlfriend will probably be, too. And this is not the stuff of great, successful relationships.


3.  Your partner isn’t on the same page as you.

This woman that I used to work with dated a man that told her from the beginning that he wasn’t ready for anything serious. She was. And she wanted something serious with him.

She felt like if she was there for him, supported him, and showed him how great she was, he’d be ready and would propose to her within a year.

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