15 Differences Between the Boy you Date and the Man you Marry

There is an old wife saying, the boy you date is not the man you marry.

The slack in every relationship is that it looks perfect on the outside but the love is seldom rooted. When one starts dating, one has longtime goals in mind which are completely understandable. But the fact is, not everyone you date is the person who fits your definition of a gentleman that you would like to marry. Marriage is about a longterm commitment, devotion and emotional maturity. It is less fun and more work. We like to believe that the person we date in our teenage years or during our young adulthood is our soulmate, our life partner. A research conducted on the Pew research center confirmed that about 60% of the loving couples never get married to each other. Now, you must be asking, what goes wrong?

There could be numerous factors that influence the course of a relationship and determine if an existing romantic relationship will ever materialize into marriage or not. One of the reasons being love. The Pew research center survey conducted in 2013 also shows that the major criteria for 88% of Americans are love, lifelong commitment for 81% and companionship for 76% of the participants. Fewer others even said that relationships recognized in a religious ceremony (30%), financial stability (28%) or legal rights and benefits (23%) were very important reasons to marry. Love might be the fundamental requirement but it is not the only ingredient to a successful marriage.

Even though choices are distinct and subjective, but these 15 differences in the boy you date and the man you are about to marry might resonate with you. Check out for yourself.

Differences Between the Boy you Date and the Man you Marry:

Here are 15 Differences Between the Boy you Date and the Man you Marry.

1.

The boy you date: 

He wants to hang out with you without having any strings attached. Dating is fun and frivolous. It is more about being wild and free. The sense of commitment is low and the raging hormones take control.

The man you marry: 

He sets out with goals in his mind and is clear about the course of the relationship and where he wants to head with you in the future.

 

2.

The boy you date:

He is the one who would make you laugh on his substandard jokes, at the bar, meant to humiliate someone. This is the reflection of how one treats another.

The man you marry: 

This man knows how to respect others and treat all alike with his chauvinistic manners. This is the man who talks of books, movies and of exotic places to visit.

 

3.

The boy you date:

He wants it casual with you. He only wants the good parts of having to date you while abandoning the responsibility that you are. He turns a cold-shoulder to accountability.

The man you marry: 

He does not flee from responsibilities. He is more than obliged to take care of you, to commit to you, both emotionally and physically.

4.

The boy you date:

He will pick fights with you whenever he gets a chance and will engage in petty  blame games because it’s all about winning.

The man you marry: 

This man will be understanding of your needs and will calm you down every time your head is about to blast. He knows how to handle you with maturity.

5.

The boy you date:

He is a cry-baby, making excuses to always show you down. He might use physical force, explicit and other unacceptable means to win every argument with you.

The man you marry: 

He fights squarely and firmly. He will not fight meaninglessly. He will fight with logic and reason.

 

6.

The boy you date:

He will be sloppy in his comments about how fat you are getting, how bad your pimple marks make you look. He isn’t sensitive enough to understand the subtle consequences.

The man you marry: 

The man you marry will accept you just as you are. No matter how many blobs of fat you have. Those superficial factors will never influence his love for you.

7.

The boy you date:

He will say sorry to cheer you up and make you stop nagging him about how much you hurt him. These ‘sorries’ will never run deep or mean genuine feelings of guilt on their part.

The man you marry:

He will genuinely apologize to you. You can see that pain in his eyes because he pained you. His apologizes will be heartfelt and will accompany changed behavior.

8.

The boy you date:

He demands you to baby him. He always wants you to take care of him, do things for him and take responsibility for him.

The man you marry:

He rather wants you to be independent. And he will be more than glad if you are able to take your own care and pursue your self-evaluation.

- Advertisement -
Ana Waller
- Advertisment -