10 Signs You Have A Toxic Mother-In-Law and How To Deal

10 Signs You Have A Toxic Mother-In-Law and How To Deal

5. She will denigrate you whenever she feels like.

If she can’t establish her dominance over you, then the rivalry will intensify in her head. She’ll take it all a step further, and keep on belittling you whenever she gets a chance. It won’t matter that what she is saying is totally false, as long as you are getting humiliated and insulted, she will be the happiest person in the world.

Soon enough, all kinds of bad reports about you will start to come in from every single person she’s ever met. People who don’t even know you will have a very negative impression of you. She will even try to manipulate your husband into thinking that you are not the right person for him.

6. She will have zero respect for you.

Your opinions, your decisions, your privacy, none of these things will matter to her in the least. She’ll drop in at all hours without any prior notice and she’ll be disappointed that you didn’t roll out a red carpet for her every time. If you do not wine her, dine her, and treat her like a queen, she will come down hard on you.

You could have the cleanest house in the world but she’ll find some non-existent speck of dust to point at and complain about how filthy your home is. She will complain about every little thing, and will not stop until you feel absolutely defeated and heartbroken. Also, she’ll claim that she loves her grandchildren but she’ll spend a lot of time pointing out their faults to you and criticizing your parenting skills.

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7. She will emotionally abuse you.

Her toxic nature and myopic mindset will make her treat you horribly, whenever you will refuse to dance to her tunes. She will subject you to the silent treatment, indirect insults, blaming, shaming, and open intimidation to dominate you, and do her bidding. No matter what happens, she will always expect you to do what she solely wants you to.

In case your husband doesn’t do the same, she will treat him horribly too. In order to make it all the more painful and emotionally traumatizing, she will shower all her love on her other grandchildren, and other daughters-in-law, and sons.

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10 Signs You Have A Toxic Mother-In-Law and How To Deal

8. She will pretend to be the nicest person in front of the outside world.

Her social standing is of utmost importance to her and she’ll do everything she can to ensure that she doesn’t lose it. In front of everyone else, she’ll be full of charm and she’ll portray herself as a loving mother to her children. She will portray herself as a charitable, selfless, and caring woman, who will do anything for her family and their happiness.

Others will find it difficult to believe that anybody including you can have problems with her; she is that good of an actress. They will find it almost impossible to believe that an ‘angelic’ woman like her can hurt and humiliate you like that.

9. She is exceptionally narcissistic.

Like a true blue narcissist, she always tries to control what others are doing, so that nothing they do can ever have a negative impression on her. She will expect everyone, including you to abide by her rules and conditions, and will hate it if you decide to go on a different path other than the one she has chosen.

Whenever she feels that she is losing control, she will engage in smear tactics and will try her level best to turn everyone she knows against you. She will spew horrible lies about you, just so people hate you and stay away from you. She will also go to great lengths to even turn her son, and your husband against you by saying horrible things to him about you.

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2 thoughts on “10 Signs You Have A Toxic Mother-In-Law and How To Deal”

  1. Thank you for sharing. A lot of what you put here has hit me. Everything you said has opened my eyes and I hopefully can stay calm and follow your wonderful direction.

  2. Thank you so much for this article. My mother-in-law is as malignant as they come, too many unfathomable horror stories I have of the last 15 years. I just learned about narcissistic behavior and realized that’s why I had no idea why she was doing all these horrible things to me. It’s so hard for others survivors to understand, because it’s a different type of relationship than that of a child, parent, spouse, etc.. I was able to check all your boxes 10x over. Thank you for writing the first piece of information regarding this topic, that I have really been able to find in 15 years, that is direct line with my situation. I feel less alone than I have in a long time – as well as assured and confident that I am finally acting accordingly to the circumstances. Thank you so very much!!!

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