Narcissists do not seek out partners. They are not involved in meaningful relationships. Instead, they are puppeteers in their own theatrical performance.
The people in their circles are just unknowing actors, and the world is the stage. To the narcissist, these performers are not seen as actors, but as inanimate objects resembling humans. By the time you might find yourself in this terrifying act, you have already realized that it is not an improv show. The narcissist writes the script, which is confusing and often not even given to you. Your role constantly changes without warning, and there is no stunt double absorbing the painful blows for you.
Initially, there is no seemingly obvious way out of the dark theater that is your new reality. You may find yourself scanning your surroundings in search of an exit, but this isn’t a typical theater. This one is full of fun house mirrors, dark holes, booby traps and mystifying mazes. You might find yourself anxiously anticipating intermission, so that the lights will come on and your can get up, identify a way out, and run from the drama. Relax, and know that you have access to the wisdom and empowerment that will turn the lights on for you.
It is impossible to escape from a relationship with a narcissist completely unscathed. Awareness about these anti-social predators is spreading, albeit long over do, so more people than ever are gathering facts to better inform themselves of the warning signs that can alert them to the danger, and allow them to get out early. Simply studying the more common, predictable behaviors of narcissists, can actually lead you to ignore the life-saving, relationship red flags.
While there is no one-size-fits-all narcissistic guideline, there are certain characteristic behaviors that appear to describe the majority of narcissists.
They will certainly not be all inclusive, or thoroughly explained here, however, these are a few of the misunderstood behaviors that are all too often incorrectly explained for those who are looking to avoid falling into the trap of these deceitful individuals in the first place.
1. Narcissists accept no responsibility for their behaviors.
If they experience something displeasing, it is the result of something someone else did. They will never admit their wrongdoings, and because they never make mistakes, they will never apologize for their behaviors.
However, this is not the case during their inventing phase: the time when they get to completely recreate a whole new story, a whole new persona, a whole new life with their not-so-lucky someone new. A narc will apologize often when caught up in the throws of this romance. They will make many carefully calculated mistakes, both large and small, offer a pitiful, vulnerable or even seemingly heartfelt apology each time, and then move on, as if an apology is all that is needed. This is part of the grooming process, where they test you and how far they can take their behaviors and still get you to offer forgiveness.
2. Narcissists will speed through the beginning stages of a relationship, heading straight to the “I love you’s”.
They can easily appear as your dream guy, since they are merely mimicking your own emotions and ideals back to you. They will constantly bombard you with flattery, communication and attention, and seem to be admiring you from every angle.
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