12. Be mindful
“In mindfulness, acceptance always comes first, change comes after.” – Shamash Alidina
The best way to heal from heartbreak is to bring your attention to the present moment. I can personally vouch for it. Practicing mindfulness allows you to live in the present moment without getting caught up in the pain of the past or the uncertainty of the future. Life is in this present moment.
Mindfulness meditation allows you to bring your awareness to the present and enjoy what life has to offer right now. Focus on what your relationship is with yourself now instead of what your relationship was with someone else in the past. When you start living in the present moment, letting go of the past becomes easier.
13. Love yourself
“A man who loves himself takes the first step towards real love.” – Osho
The secret to healing yourself and finding inner peace and happiness is simple. Love yourself. Take care of yourself. Practicing self-love and self-care on a daily basis is crucial for letting go of a past relationship. Tell yourself that you are worthy of love. Remind yourself that you deserve a happy, healthy, loving, and lasting relationship.
Follow an effective self-care routine every day. Do some exercise. Eat healthily. Get a good rest. Get a massage. Enjoy some music. Watch your favorite movie. Go for a walk. Pet a dog. Simple things like these can make you feel a lot better. Indulge. Be kind and gentle with yourself. You are going through a difficult time. Practice self-compassion.
14. Embrace change
“Change has to come for life to struggle forward.”- Helen Hollick
Change is the only constant in life. Unfortunately, there is no ‘happily ever afters’ in the real world. Things change. People change. Life changes. One day everything might seem perfect while the very next day your entire life might turn upside down. No matter how hard you try, you cannot hold onto something forever. Rom Coms and fairy tales have it wrong.
Love may last forever, but relationships rarely do. And even the ones that last, go through a lot of ups and downs. People will come into your life and people will go. Instead of clinging on to the past that no longer exists, embrace the impermanence of life and let go. Appreciate life as moments unfold in front of you and let them go to make way for new ones.
15. Live the life you always wanted
“If love becomes too painful, then it’s time to let that love go and save yourself. You have to keep this in mind because you’ll be able to find another love but not another self.” – Robert Tew
What would you have done if you never met your ex? What career would you have pursued? What dreams would you have followed? Where would you have traveled? Who would you have been? Now go ahead and be that person. Do that thing. Travel to your dream destination. Life waits for none. Instead of drowning yourself in self-pity by locking yourself in your room, go out there and live your best life.
You have already survived one of the worst experiences of life. You are stronger than you think. Now create the life you always wanted. Focus on yourself and remind yourself how amazing your life was before you met your ex. How awesome you were before you met them. You are still the same person. You just need to find him inside. You just need to make your life great again. The moment you start living your life is the very moment you start letting go.