7 Behaviors Common Among Adults Who Went Through Trauma At A Young Age

 March 20, 2018

7 Behaviors Common Among Adults Who Went Through Trauma At A Young Age



 

5.  Becoming passive-aggressive

It’s usually easier to beat around the bush rather than directly confront the cause of your problems. When people are too scared to do the latter, they spend a lot of time trying to repress the anger and resentment that has taken hold deep inside them. While they may be successful at times, some of it will eventually start to find its way out. They might not be ready for the direct confrontation but they start dealing with it in a passive-aggressive manner in an effort to remain subtle while getting their point across. They might think that they’re avoiding negativity but they’re just lying to themselves.

 

6.  A state of constant tension

That traumatic experience probably ended a long, long time ago but some people have a hard time letting go. They’re well aware that their circumstances have changed but they’re always preparing for those problems to come back, some even unconsciously so. Their brain is stuck on the principle of flight and fight and this causes a good deal of internal conflict. They are in a state of constant tension which keeps them from living life as it should be lived. They are never carefree about anything. This is usually seen in survivors of physical abuse but it also occurs in those who have had breakdowns due to being overstressed.

 




7.  Victimizing themselves

This is what happens when the victim of some form of trauma becomes too used to that role. They’ve been treated as a helpless victim for so long and by so many that they actually start to believe it. But once the attention passes, they are left lonely, feeling like they are just floating around alone in life. They try to deal with it by further embracing the role of the victim. They find it safer to take orders rather than to give them. They’ll obey even if they don’t agree with the order they’ve been given. They feel much safer this way.

“Dissociation is the common response of children to repetitive, overwhelming trauma and holds the untenable knowledge out of awareness. The losses and the emotions engendered by the assaults on soul and body cannot, however be held indefinitely. In the absence of effective restorative experiences, the reactions to trauma will find expression. As the child gets older, he will turn the rage in upon himself or act it out on others, else it all will turn into madness.”
― Judith Spencer, Satans High Priest

 

 


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7 Behaviors Common Among Adults Who Went Through Trauma At A Young Age




11 comments on “7 Behaviors Common Among Adults Who Went Through Trauma At A Young Age

  1. Very true for many things in this article, but I don’t think we limit our full potential when we have struggled to brake the sycle of our abbuse. It’s braking the thickest of walls that anybody could go through and we are strong for doing that, someone who has never lived it, can never understand this strength .

  2. I am who you spoke about in the video, not actually her of course but her story and mine sound so similar. I have 7 of the 10 traumatic experiences from my childhood.

    I’m a functional middle aged adult today and have been throughout my life despite my childhood experience. No drug or alcohol addiction. No erratic behavior, no deep depression, no anxiety issues, normal to those who know me.

    Definitely a few things I wish I could improve on, namely weight loss an keeping it off. Counseling hasn’t been a help despite multiple attempts.

    My conclusion is I cannot handle the attention from men so I always put the weight back on, it’s safer. It might be a lot more complicated than that according to the mental health community but it seems so clear to me.

    If only I could figure how to change that for good…….

  3. I read the article as I am very concerned with mental health as it represent a problem at a global scale. It is important to realise that you need help and support and don’t be afraid to open up.
    By reading the article, I found myself when I read about the panic attacks and also when one looks at a certain object and is afraid and get anxious as the object may bring back memories from a certain point in their lives and those people may feel reluctant. Interesting article. 🙂

  4. As a survivor of childhood trauma I was pulled in by this article and it does describe my behaviors for the most part.
    I did not take this article as a “true for all survivors” piece.
    I did however find the article helpful in describing why I am this way but I also know that my behavioral counseling is an imperative part of my continued growth in self awareness and healing.
    This article helped me to get a better focus in my sessions.
    Anyone who sees this article as definitive diagnosis should re-evaluate why you say that.
    This article, if nothing else, gets the conversation started for people like me who want to improve ourselves and overcome the traumas in our lives. Thank you for the article..

  5. The article was interesting, and I believe there is some truth in it somewhere, but
    you’re basically saying that everyone who is passive-aggressive, a recluse, or hyper-
    sensitive, A.) is wrong in their behavior, and B.) experienced some trauma. Neither of
    these could be absolutely true. And writing an article that says such things is irresponsible,
    and unethical.

    The implication that all trauma is bad is a paranoid delusion. Fortunately, we have a lot of
    trauma induced sociopaths running the large institutions of the world. Most of the people
    who reach the apex of their field have trauma filled pasts, the very reason they achieved.

    A common trend in these types of “mental health” articles is they tend to push the idea that
    people who are “well adjusted” should appreciate the company of others and be comfortable
    in the community of others. I think this is because many socially oriented people need
    validation and vindication, and a community gives them a place to hide.

    • The article does not say as you charge. It says that these things CAN be symptoms of trauma. That is not mean that that symptom points to only one explanation. For analogy, one may have a headache and that CAN be evidence of a brain tumor. Having a headache, however does not mean that one has a brain tumor.

      • On your second point, trauma by definition is something that is “bad.” If it is not bad, it is not trauma.
        I think what you may be trying to say is that the same type of event may be traumatic to one person and not traumatic to another.
        Or you may be saying that something that is traumatic can also have elements that can be used for good.
        If so, The first statement is objectively provable. The second is the basis of some of the therapy done with those who have experienced trauma (I.e. “reframing” the events) and is a matter of perspective.

  6. As a clinician I am quite bothered by the sweeping generalizations this article presents as facts. Trauma does not have universal responses. While it is true that one is more prone to panic attacks, for example, it is fallacious and irresponsible to imply that all who experience early trauma will suffer from panic attacks and hypervigilance. Please do more nuanced research before publishing articles like this.

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