Why I’ll Just Date Myself

Being new to singlehood, I thought “let me just date myself.” I had all sorts of doubts, I probably felt a little lonely at times. Having to spend weekends alone doesn’t sound that great, does it?

When you’re single, dating yourself can be a good thing. It is far better than constantly looking for a new partner. But what exactly do I mean when I say I will date myself? Am I still single? Well, yes and no, to be honest. But I’d imagine dating a better version of myself. Rather than simply stating that I’m “unavailable,” dating myself implies that I’m out there getting to do things that I enjoy, just because I can.

When you accept that you are single and don’t need a partner to make you happy, you are collaborating with yourself.

“I’m not single. I’m not taken. I’m simply on reserve for the one who deserves my heart.” — Unknown

Here is Why I’ll Just Date Myself.

1. I’m Not Unhappy Or Callous, But From Now On I’m Going To Date Myself.

It’s not that I can’t find a date; it’s just that I don’t want to date anyone. The main thing is that I am content doing my own thing. However, as true as this is, I would gladly accept a man coming in and turning my life around for the better.

But no one is doing that right now, so instead of waiting for a date, I’m going to live it up. I’m tired of accepting less than what I want and deserve, and luckily I have a sensitive radar for nonsense and I can spot the players and narcissists from a mile away. I can tell the difference between a man’s intentions and whether he is actually interested in being with me or not. I want to be valued, not simply desired. I don’t seek men with riches or the perfect body but someone who sweeps me off my feet and makes me happy.

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2. The Materialistic Things Don’t Impress Me, But Confidence And Authenticity Do.

I don’t need anyone to take me out to feel loved, until that guy who is watching me dance barefoot in the kitchen while I cook for us, I’m content living alone; a life I enjoy. I find pleasure in spending long evenings alone, wandering through the market, stopping to smell ripe fruits, and planning meals that excite and delight my senses.

I don’t need a man to take me to the movies. The truth is that I prefer my own living room and company, where I can listen to my favorite music, eat pizza, and spend time with my girls. I enjoy dancing to my favorite music at home, which I can play loudly while sipping some wine and smiling because I’m truly happy.

3. Being Alone And Being Lonely Are Two Different Things

Being “alone” is a state in which you are physically alone. Whereas when you are “lonely”, you’re going through feelings of being isolated or disconnected from others, even if they are right beside you.

And I’ve realized that I am, indeed, alone. I’m not dating anyone and while I do want a man in my life I also recognize that I need one in many ways. I’m not lonely. I don’t need a man to make me happy or feel better, and I don’t mean that in a self-absorbed way. What I mean is that I have an amazing career, friends who always support me, and a family who has my back no matter what the situation is but most importantly, I love myself.

There is no loneliness in dating myself, but there is a great deal of peace as I am content to enjoy and live my life until someone comes along who wants to support me and I want to support them.

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4. I’ll Date Myself Because If I Can’t Fall In Love With Myself, How Can I Expect Anyone Else To?

Most of my previous relationships did not work out because I loved them more than I loved myself. Now I want to embrace myself and enjoy my own company. I discovered what I like and who I am during the late nights and early mornings.

I know what I believe in, and I know what kind of love I want. Most importantly, I believe in myself and I know what kind of woman I will be in the days to come. So, while I’m single, I’d like to keep working on myself and doing things that bring me joy.

Until then I’ll date myself until I find a man who is true to his intentions and loyal to me. A man who will love me shouldn’t have any problem telling me when I am wrong. I want to have an equal partner, and until I get that I’m happy being by myself.

5. To Wait For Someone Who Will Appreciate Me As His Woman, A Man Who Will See That My Heart Is As Beautiful As Me.

While I may have long hair, and sparkling eyes I don’t want him to fall in love with my physical features. I want him to be smitten by my eccentricities and my soul. A man who will decide that even though he can’t exactly picture what his life will be like with me, he won’t be able to picture his life without me.

He doesn’t have to be the most perfect man, but someone who guarantees to apologize even if he makes mistakes. And I will be his woman to complement his life because now is when I am doing the work for my future; building myself while he does the same. And until I come across such a man I won’t settle for less and will continue to date myself…

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I’m going to spend some time alone, dating myself while being amazing at what I do.

I take myself out on dates, and weekend getaways, and isn’t that amazing? I’m learning to keep myself happy until that special man comes into my life with the intention of supporting me while I support him, holding my hand tight in difficult times. But, until that happens, I’ve decided to stay true to myself, and in the meantime, I’ll just date myself.