3. They are loud and ignorant
They always make sure their opinions are heard loud and clear by everyone. They are never worried about crossing boundaries to make their thoughts public even at the cost of invading your private space. They will not hesitate to hurt someone to drive their point home and to have the last word.
When threatened by someone who is smarter than them, these assholes will instantly resort to lies, twisted facts, insults, and even public shaming as they themselves are highly insecure. Having this type of partner or a boss can make me feel upset, miserable, and stressed, but you’re not depressed.
4. They turn you into someone you’re not
These conniving people will manipulate you to become a completely different person, someone you never wanted to be. You will not even recognize the person you’ve become. By playing the victim card, these assholes will shift the blame on you for everything that is wrong in your life and convince you that it’s all your fault.
You will soon start doubting your decisions and actions. As a result, you will experience frequent emotional outbursts even at the smallest triggers which will affect your emotional, physical, and mental health.
5. They lie blatantly to manipulate
An asshole will lie without hesitation about anything as long as it serves their purpose. They are masters at lying, gaslighting, spreading rumors, and gossiping. As they believe they are always right, they don’t consider their lies as harmful or manipulative. If you get in their way, these expert manipulators will do anything to defeat you.
As a result, you will doubt your sanity, lose self-confidence and feel like there is no one to support you. These toxic individuals will make you isolated and lonely which can easily lead to feelings of sadness and hopelessness. They will make you question ‘are you depressed?’But, you’re not depressed.
Asshole recovery strategy
Are you depressed or are assholes trying to ruin your life? You can find these assholes everywhere, in your school, church, social circles, workplace and even in relationships. But you can still choose to fight back and reclaim your life.
Here are a few things that you can do about getting rid of assholes from your life:
1. Observe and be honest
Allow yourself to realize the reality. Understand that you are being psychologically and emotionally manipulated by someone in your life. Identifying that individual is the first step to getting your self-respect and self-esteem back.
2. Take charge of your life
Once you have identified that person, take action. Decide what you can do and how you can go about it. Even if it is a permanent relationship, you can still do something about it and take positive action.
3. Cut off all ties
End your relationship with that toxic person, if possible, or at least make sure you restrict your exposure to them. The course of action you choose will help you get away from that person and stay away from their toxicity. Reduce your interaction with them and in worst cases, break up with them, if needed.
4. Take care of yourself
Self-love is your strongest tool in healing yourself from this traumatic experience. Take care of your health, do things that you enjoy, spend more time with family and friends who support you, take a vacation, do anything that makes you happy.
5. Get help
Sometimes it may be important for you to seek professional help and get therapy. A therapist can help you get out of the manipulative clutches of this toxic person. Your therapist can also help you identify your depression and help with treatment. Don’t hesitate to ask for help, whether from a doctor or from your family and friends.
It’s time for you to stand up, take notice and take the required action. Know when you are dealing with an asshole and do what you need to live your life happily away from their toxicity.