5 Reasons Why You Are Attracted To Toxic People

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Reasons Why You Are Attracted To Toxic People

Do you always find yourself getting attracted to toxic people and end up in misery? Below are some of the reasons for your toxic attraction in relationships.

“Nice people don’t necessarily fall in love with nice people.”

― Jonathan Franzen, Freedom.

The attraction is the primary reason a relationship is formed. The moment we are attracted to someone, we start to see other aspects too.

But all the attractions are not loved. Similarly, the person we are getting attracted to might get attracted to us too but the frequency or rather the reasons for attraction might be completely different. In the beginning, it might seem they are all the same but this is not how reality works.

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Attraction blinds us, makes us biased.

This is why we tend to look at the positive sides of our person of interest ignoring the darker negative ones.

We might really get immensely attracted to the person and develop the feeling of love but the other person might get attracted to us out of infatuation or even lust. In the worst case, they might fake to take our advantage.

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Once this attraction is established between two people, by any means, love settles down, and then comes the question of commitment, loyalty, etc. But these attractions need to be genuine.

We are not mind readers. There are innumerable times we might get attracted to a person for all the wrong reasons.

In order to prevent yourself from getting hurt, it’s important to understand why are you getting attracted to that person.

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1. You think the person needs your help

We all have problems. But a relationship can never be based just on saving someone or helping someone. The fire-fighters, doctors, nurses, army men, security guards and all of us are doing this every day.

Does this mean we are in a relationship with everyone? Of course not! In a relationship, you should support your partner but that should also be reciprocated.

Having empathy for the person, you cannot get yourself drained. You think that your love interest needs your help but the reality is, your love interest is just using you.

If someone helps you, you need to acknowledge that, reciprocate that. But that’s not your case. So, don’t think that entertaining that person is your duty.

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2. You think you can change the person

We all need a second chance. You love interest or your partner made a mistake once and apologized. But if this keeps on happening in cycles, then you should stop nurturing your love or attraction towards them.

You cannot change the person unless they want to change themselves. Thinking that you will change that person and make them a better human being is an act of foolishness. That is not going to happen.

3. Your partner makes you feel guilty for your actions

If the reason you still love your partner because they make you feel guilty of your actions, blame you for the misunderstandings, always telling you that the relationship will not work out because of you, then it is not love.

Your partner has made you lose your self-confidence and that’s how you are attracted to toxic people.

You are the one who gave them the right to judge what’s right and wrong. Don’t let them be the arbiter of your life.

You might make mistakes but everything is not fault and your partner is not a sage either. It’s the lack of love from their side which makes them do such cheap things. You know you are hurting yourself in the relationship.

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4. Your peers urge you to go back

You have to understand this straight and simple. This is your life and you should decide what’s right and wrong for you.

You might take advice or suggestions from people but don’t jump into their prescribed actions if you are not comfortable with it yourself. If you don’t feel like going back, then don’t go. It’s your life, your call.

5. You think you love them

No matter how hurt you might have been, you still feel you are in true love. It’s not the attraction but rather the good times which make you feel that it’s been, true love.

You might love that person but if it’s not reciprocated, it’s never true love. Keep your memories where they should be: in the past.

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Understand and explore yourself before you fall for someone. Take steps properly before committing.

Related: How To Deal With Toxic People Based On Their Zodiac Sign

Are you also dating someone toxic and can’t let go? And if you could relate to the above reasons then leave a comment below and share the article with your friends.


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