“I will not try to convince you to love me, to respect me, to commit to me. I deserve better than that; I AM BETTER THAN THAT…Goodbye.”
― Steve Maraboli
Leaving is hard especially when you are leaving the person you love so much.
We get committed to the people we love in order to live a simple and peaceful life. As responsible adults, lesser the drama we encounter, greater are chances of finding peace and happiness. But not all adults understand this need for stability and peace. In a lot of cases, it turns out that the person you love is giving you trouble instead of peace. So, it’s better to break up with that person. You are probably wondering how can breaking up be a good thing to do.
For that, we have made a list of 9 signs which will help you understand why it’s good for you to break up with the person you love so much.
(1) They do not talk about future plans with you:
Your partner might talk about love but you never see them making future plans with you. Whenever you raise the topic, they tend to avoid them. This implies, they are not interested in having a future with you. In that case, it’s better to leave them before they leave you.
(2) They are irresponsible:
Every relationship demands responsibility from both sides. If your partner is irresponsible, then it’s high time you think about leaving because you are not in a romantic relationship to baby sit anyone.
(3) They are abusive:
No matter how much you love a person, you cannot give them the power to become abusive. Being abusive is in no way related to any form of love. Any sort of abuse, verbal, psychological or anything is wrong. If the person is abusive towards you, they will be abusive to others too and you can’t change them. So, it will be wiser for you to leave.
(4) They are violent:
Violence in not at all an expression of love or possessiveness. If your partner is violent, you can forgive but you shouldn’t let yourself remain a victim.
(5) They do not take your consent:
A relationship is about equality. If your partner does not care about taking your consent when it comes to matters related to the both of you, it indicates that they will control your wishes all throughout the relationship and your dreams and desires will be suppressed. Is it really possible to survive in a relationship like this?
(6) They cheat on you:
If your partner is cheating now, then chances are high they will cheat again, no matter how sorry they pretend to be. Cheating cannot be excused and one must take the right decision if they find out their partner is cheating.
(7) You remember painful moments with them rather than the happy ones:
Just close your eyes and think for a few moments about the time you spent with your partner. If you remember the painful moments better than the happy times, then it’s a warning sign that you are constantly getting hurt in the relationship and the time has come for you to leave.
(8) They do not compromise with you:
You are the one who is always adjusting in the relationship. If your partner doesn’t compromise with you, that means they are least interested in giving the same effort as yours and this will happen only when they don’t feel the same for you. It’s time you start thinking about leaving.
(9) They haven’t introduced you to their peers:
They always tell you how special you are but they haven’t even introduced you to their family and friends. This implies, they are not interested to show you to their close people and that, they are definitely not thinking about having long term relationships with you. Don’t you think it is good for you to leave them before they do?