Think you can make it work?
When you first broke up, you may have never thought you’d consider getting back together — or maybe you did. But if you’re now wondering, “Should I get back with my ex?”, there’s a lot you should consider before starting a new relationship with your former boyfriend or girlfriend.
It can work.
For example, Justin Bieber got engaged to his ex Hailey Baldwin back in July … right after they’d broken up and dated other people. Their history was likely part of the reason the were almost instantly engaged once they got back together.
And they were far from the first couple realize they’d already found true love when they got back together with their ex.
Adam Levine and Behati Prinsloo were also exes. Adam dated other Victoria’s Secret models but couldn’t get his mind off Behati, and even ghosted one of his model ladies. Then, he suddenly got engaged to Behati and now they have 2 children, are still completely in love, and are dedicated to each other and their family
Like these celebrity couples, should you get back with your ex, too, or if you do will your “re-relationship” be doomed?
While some say revisiting the past is never a good idea, that it must have ended for a reason or that the two of you broke up because you were broken as a couple, it might be time to re-think all that.
If you want to know how you can happily and successfully get back together with you ex, what it really comes down is the reasons why you broke up in the first place.
If you and your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend broke up for any of these 11 reasons, might want to consider getting back together and seeing if you’re still in love with each other.
1. You met while you were with someone else.
And though you thought you were ready when you finally got together, the fact is that you still had some serious healing to do. You simply weren’t in a healthy place to pursue this new relationship, regardless of how right he was for you in general, the time was wrong.
2. You were in a time of transition with your career.
Leaving little time or energy to focus on the relationship.
3. You didn’t realize what you had.
Or how much you loved them until they were gone.
4. You weren’t ready for something so real, intense, and consuming.
At least, not yet.
5. You were still emotionally tied to an unhealthy ex.
You weren’t ready yet to open your heart to someone else, regardless of the fact that your ex was awful and the guy in front of you was pretty great.
6. You still had some growing, learning, exploring, and self-discovery to do.
And you’ve used your time apart to do that.
7. You tried imposing a timeframe on the relationship.
You were ready for a proposal, marriage, and kids, but he wasn’t ready — to move at your speed. So you left to find someone else who was on your schedule.
8. You had some issues that you needed to come to terms with and heal from.
And you have done so.
9. You were still in the “fun” phase of dating.
You weren’t ready to “settle down” with the one. Now you are.
10. You confused what you wanted with what you needed.
You thought about finding a hot guy with lots of money and who’s tons of fun was more important than one who is emotionally and financially supportive, nurturing, and understanding. Your priorities were off, and you’ve straightened them out.
11. You weren’t happy with yourself.
You were looking outside of yourself for someone to make you happy, and didn’t understand that no matter whose arms you were in, you would still felt empty and alone if you didn’t make some key changes.